Am I being unreasonable?? lost enigma: Ok,
As some of you know, I have been with my bf for 3.5 years. The relationship is great, we just had some bad luck with the family and money issues.
But i know he loves me, there is no doubt about it. It's just i cant stand that he has such a sexual past. He's older than I am. He's been around, with at least 8 girls. This makes me sick. I dont know why. Well there is one he is still friends with, the co worker. I know nothing is going on with them at all, it just makes me sick to think that he was ever with another person. Why am I feeling this way??
I know I am not an ugly person, neither is he. I just feel sooo insecure with him having a past. I know its wrong but I cant stand it. Why does he need her as a friend. They dont even talk all the time, i see his phone. But this doesnt make me feel better..... I just hate the fact he was with other women before me. He was my first, does this have something to do with it? :-\
Re: Am I being unreasonable?? lost enigma: COME ON....Advice please :'(
Re: Am I being unreasonable?? Dolphin Close: YES you are unreasonable. Read these 2 lines I quoted from your original message. Read them aloud. Then put yourself in his place. If it's still hard for you to do, ask the next person next to you why these are unreasonable. There are obvious relationship issues you need to address. Insecurity issues within yourself and the relationship you have.
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it just makes me sick to think that he was ever with another person.
I just hate the fact he was with other women before me.
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Re: Am I being unreasonable?? jadedangel: [color=navy"> I do have to agree with Dolphin Close. If you can't accept his past .. you might as well just move on. 8 girls ... is not that many in these days and age -- But .. that is what it is ... in the past.
I think you should let him know if it bothers you this much -- but, if you expect to find 'the perfect mate' consisting of never sleeping with anyone else --- you might be wanting something that is ... as you said .. unreasonable. [/color">
Re: Am I being unreasonable?? SunnyFlower: The past is just that.
THE PAST.
Leave it there.
Accept all that he is and what goes along with him, or don't accept him at all.
As long as you are secure in your relationship with him now, I "let sleeping dogs lie".
Peace,
Sunny :)
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