Re: I need your strength guys, please SunnyFlower: I'm sure none of us pictured being divorced from the ones we had married either. No one purposely plans to be a single mother, or to be hurt/betrayed from the person we wanted to spend our life with...
It's ok. You're going to have bad days. Lots of them. (Sorry. :() There will be times when you feel exhausted, burnt out, sorry for yourself. IT'S OK! You need time to grieve. Divorce is a huge loss, and grieving is all a part of the healing prcess.
Tomorrow is a newer, (hopefully sunnier ;)) day. Hang onto your little ones...it's amazing how much STRENGTH they will give you during these rough times.
YOU ARE NOT PATHETIC! You're just having a bad day...IT'S OK!!
Is your family at least there for you when your friends are being a little less than supportive? The ones that truly love you will never tire of trying to comfort you, or think of you as a burden...(I truly hope you don't feel that way. It's hard for people to understand what you are going through when they haven't gone through them personally-but good friends/family should still be EMPATHETIC.)
Hope it gets easier soon...
~Sunny
Re: I need your strength guys, please BigRunner493: hey c4e..
that's what we are here for...at the very least to listen (read) to you and be here to lean on. if we could give you advice then that's just gravy. but i know what it's like to keep repeating yourself to your friends. i knew mine were sick of it, but they still listened and were there for me.
it may seem impossible, but it's not. i thought after my ex got a boyfriend and started bringing him around the kids and them interacting as a family that it as over for me and i didn't really care about the future, nothing mattered to me anymore........but you have to realize that failure is easy, not only will you feel great pride in putting things back together, but your kids will see how strong their mom is and look up to you as they get older. you can be a great example to them.
i looked at that point in my life as a challenge, a challenge to define who i was as an individual, challenge everything that i thought i could never do on my own. it's not easy, but if it was, i don't think i would feel as good as i do about myself now and the relationship i have with my kids.
please don't give up, the end result is so worth it.....keep trying, crying, talking, whatever it takes........
br
