There is Life justmenow: I am back. Many of you don't know me, but I felt compelled to come back for a brief visit to reassure all of you who are in pain right now that there is life post-divorce and many times it is better. I'm not really a newbie, but rather a frequent-poster who deleted herself after needing to stand on my own two feet for a while and get it together (a self-imposed time out).
You are in for the ride of your life. This is a ride that contains a lot of soul-searching, a lot of truth, tears, self-doubt, dark days, therapy, and sometimes antidepressants. Some of you will heal quickly, and it will take others a very long time. So here is my story, in hopes that it might encourage someone.
For me, the trip has been long and fast. Where I was a year ago: 6 months pre-divorce, frightened, miserable, suicidal, depressed, etc. My husband of 14 years cheated on me with my best friend. Bam. Lost two special people at once. We got divorced at the end of July and it was a very tumultuous time. I got myself into therapy, exercising, antidepressants, etc. I became an OJAR-holic, spending up to 18 hours a day on this board. I made some great new friends, and started reconstructing my life.
At some point, I got off the antidepressants and decided to face life head-on. I turned toward my Church, which was an incredible comfort and a source of unconditional love for me. I started exercising. I quit OJAR cold-turkey for personal reasons. So where am I now?
Happier. More self-confident. No longer suicidal. On top of my game. Not seeing a therapist anymore (don't need to). Stronger. Smarter. Lots of things I wasn't before and never expected to be.
My ex and I have rebuilt our friendship to a certain level. There is no love there anymore, but there is a whole lot more respect. He is seeing someone now and seems happier, and I am glad for him. I have a lot more self respect now. I have also reconnected with someone I went to high school with (who knew?) and am very, very happy. He is very special to me and makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. I never thought I'd trust again, but slowly that is coming back. He is very patient with me and willing to wait as long as it takes.
There is life post-divorce. I just wanted to drop a line to encourage those of you who are in such pain. I still think about all of you out here and will say a special prayer for you all.
-V
PS - Oh, and Michael? Thanks. I appreciate your sense of humor and all of your wonderful words of encouragement.
Re:There is Life admin: No problem V.
Good to hear you're doing well.
Best, Michael.
Re:There is Life Safetykc: I am very very happy for you V. Truly. Thank you for sharing the update.
Best,
~E
Re:There is Life wolly1234: THat,,, was a wonderful post.
Re:There is Life justmenow: I mostly wanted to post something for others that I was looking for when I first came here. Hope.
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