Date brynne: Ok I had a date this weekend...first "real" date I guess.
The date went ok but here's the problem...I could NOT stop thinking about my X & our first date...where we went, what he said...all the details. Wondering if he was with his girlfriend...
When I got home, I just sat down & cried...I was angry at my X for forcing me to date again (he cheated, so I had no choice IMO).
I was angry that our scrapbook from our 1st year together sat in the corner of his office where he left it.
Just all these emotions that started swirling in my head, I was not ready for that...funny how emotions can rear their ugly heads anytime they feel like it !
Anyone else had similar feelings after a date ?
Hope
Re:Date JimB: Hoo boy, have I ever. :-\
The hard part's over now, though. You got through the first date. Now you know what to expect, and knowing it makes it easier to deal with.
IMO, the key is still attitude. When I first started dating, I hated the very idea of dating. Over time, it's become kinda fun again. And why date if it's no fun, right? But there are obstacles to be overcome before we can think of dating as fun again.
Re:Date grober: Hope,
Congrats on getting back out there. When I first started trying to date I had similar feelings. Even talking to a single girl who seemed interested would stir up all kinds of emotions. By the time I worked up enough courage to ask someone out, those feelings had faded.
Now I'm going out a couple times a week and have been meeting some great new people. You are just around that corner. Dating does get easier. You will eventually enjoy it.
[quote"> I was angry that our scrapbook from our 1st year together sat in the corner of his office where he left it.[/quote">
Just a suggestion, maybe you should try to re-decorate your place. You know, shake things up a bit. Having things in that same place he left them can lead you down roads you don't need to go down (emotionally speaking). I still have things from my marriage, but they are boxed up and out of sight.
Just a thought. Good luck.
Re:Date brynne: Thanks JimB & FoundMe,
I do need to work on my attitude towards dating, right now I see it as something I'm forced to do. B/C friends ask me if I'm dating again, b/c I'm late 20s & know that I can't wait forever to date again.
I took your advice FoundMe & put the scrapbook & pic's he left behind in the closet of the extra bedroom. I even closed the door b/c that was our computer room where he talked to her online every night.
Thanks again,
Hope
Re:Date Brian75034: "I'm late 20s & know that I can't wait forever to date again. "
Try not to put a time frame on your life. It will only lead to unhapiness and let down expectations. Things will work out and you have to believe that.
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