Old Timer Needs Opinions rippedfuel: Gang,
I don't post much but many of you will remember me. I have been thinking about something and thought I'd get opinions from some of you here.
I have been divorced for 2 years now, I see her all the time, talk to her all the time, things are good, but things are over for sure. Haven't thought about it being US for over a year.
I also have seen through the last two years of heavy dating, meeting many new people doing my own thing, that marriage and kids ar not for me. i talk to my friends that have this life and I don't think I could ever deal with not having COMPLETE control over my own life. I think I like the idea of lifetime bachelor.
Here is what I have been thinking about. I have grown very bored in the life I have. I am a software engineer and i own my own home. This routine life would be fine if I was planning on children and a wife. i do not want that, as I mentioned, I have learned this. I have all the material items I could ever want, but really no happiness. My career bores me to tears and I need some excitement in my life.
I have been thinking of selling my home and moving to Vegas. Out there, I feel I would feel much better about myself starting anew without friends and family thinking I threw it all away. And if its excitement I am looking for, isnt that the place???
I have been there several times and loved it. the question, would I be CRAZY to quit the life I worked so hard for to just go start over?? I mean, sucessful career, great home, lotsa stuff, all gone for some pipe dream of excitement?? I have ALWAYS worshipped and LOVED the spotlight. I dont think I'd fail. And i have my knowledge to fall back on is things go awry.
I friend of mine moved to Denver and said it was the best thing she ever did. Her line that is stuck in my head is..."Buffalo will always take you back"
Thoughts???
Re:Old Timer Needs Opinions Brian75034: Ripped,
good to hear from ya again and understand what you are feeling.
You are finally in your new life, after your divorce, and it sounds like you are still wanting/trying to "define" it.
IF you are sure Vegas (Vegas, baby, Vegas) is what works for you, then go for it! Lots of people go through those feelings, but usually involves a wife, and a couple kids. You are lucky to not have to deal with that part.
BUT, if it was me, Id find out exactly what I think I am missing out in life. And does it require such an extreme change to make my life "different"? Sometimes all it takes is a new job or new hobby, activity.
My $.02! ;)
B
Re:Old Timer Needs Opinions Eyelo: Ripp,
I have tried the ‘starting over’ thing by moving to a different town. In some ways is very refreshing, especially when it’s all so new. The problem is, however, when things settle down and some sort of routine sets in, the reasons for leaving would seem to follow me. I guess it felt like I was running away trying to grab onto something new that would bring me happiness. My problem at the time, was, I had no idea what it was I wanted to bring me the happiness that I was seeking. Ultimately, I was just running away and not dealing with myself.
I’m not saying that this is what you are doing because you sound like you have figured out some things. My advice is to make sure you are not running away but running too.
Good luck with your decisions.
eyelo
Re:Old Timer Needs Opinions admin: Ripped,
1. Pick a "cause" you resonate with and help others achieve what you have. This WILL give you satisfaction!
2. Moving towns and changing careers WILL shake things up as well.
- Michael.
Re:Old Timer Needs Opinions rippedfuel: I am certain that I am not running AWAY from anything. The only thing I might be running from is the career. Here in Buffalo, there isnt a lot of excitement and I do need a new job with some social interaction. The really depressing part is the cube every day. i am not runnign from my ex, or my family. I really feel like running TO excitement might be the case. I have always been a flyer, a excitement kind of guy.
Why Vegas entices me is that I would feel less guilty giving up EVERYTHING in a new place. Plus there I think it would be easy to find people like myself.
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