Re: What do you like about not being married atd74: I LOVE not having to walk on eggshells anymore. :)
I LOVE being free to spend as much time with my family as I want without someone pinching me that it's time to go home. ;D
I LOVE the thought of having my own place to decorate the way I want. ;)
I LOVE the thought of being free to find a new love who respects me and will treat me as I deserve to be treated. :D
I LOVE not getting tracked down and "alerted" on my Nextel anymore. ;D
I LOVE being able to spend my hard earned money w/o the guilt. :)
I LOVE not getting a thousand phone calls a day from him anymore. :D
UGH! Too much to LOVE about not being married to this guy anymore... not enough room to write it all down!!! ;D
Re: What do you like about not being married RJM: I love watching Oprah and Dr. Phil in peace! I also love the fact that I can be home without the constant drone of the TV in the background.
Re: What do you like about not being married notmyself: what do i love about not being married:
i feel like i can finally be myself! just me, not what i am supposed to be... the perfect wife, the perfect daughter in law.
i can wear whatever i want without getting these looks. i don't have to be the picture of business at all times, i can be a bit funky when i want to.
i can express my affections, especially to my new boyfriend. x frowned on PDA's and basically any physical affection. it is nice not to get rejected all of the time. he wasn't too big on saying 'i love you' either, made it seem like a chore and used it to get to me, i.e wouldn't say it if he was mad.
i can buy whatever i want, whether it be clothes, new sewing patterns, whatever without him being all like 'well i want this because you bought that' like a child would. never equal, it would be like i spent $3 on a pattern, he wanted $75 new shoes. i went without all of the time because he wanted... now it is just because i am poor. :)
i can actually get ready in the morning in the bathroom without him princessing around, rushing me. my goodness, he took longer than me to get ready.
Not having my cell phone ringing off of the hook if i go out. not to clubs or bars, just to my sisters or my parents to sew or the like. he called one time between 5:30p and 10:30p eleven times.
Being with someone who actually seems to be proud to be seen in public with me, who takes pride in the fact that i am attractive and likes that others may look my way. don't have to keep self covered up anymore like a pariah so that i don't upset x.
Not having to cook grits for him for breakfast. Not having to come home after working all day to a dark house with no porch light on only to find him after having off all day watching tv in the basement only to have him ask me what's for dinner.
Not having to worry about x cheating on me anymore. Not feeling that panic when he goes to work because i know he will be acting like an @ss, acting like he is single. Not having to worry if he is lying to me, as it turns out that was something he was doing an awful lot of.
I know there are more, but i will stop rambling. All i know is that i could never go back to where i was before, i could never be with him again. i love myself too much.
Re: What do you like about not being married down2basics: As so many others have said...it's the freedom, the experience of freedom that I enjoy the most. I also love being able to do what I want, when I want, with whom I want, where ever I want! 8) However, it is truly more than that.
As notmyself said, no more eggshells, no worrying about so very many things that plagued our minds.
I don't worry anymore about what I'm coming home to...other than the pandemonium of my two children! ha! I don't worry about whether he's suicidal, homicidal or just plain broken anymore. It's not my problem.
I left him - true! Why? Because I could not sit idly by and watch him destroy himself. I loved him far far too much to do that. The question has been asked repeatedly, "well..if you love him - why don't you try to work it out?" Because, I don't believe in my heart that you can ever go back. The same problems that seperated you before will arise again...and will be worse than before. People tend to drag vast amounts of emotional luggage behind them....grudges, regrets, guilt, paranoid feelings...the list goes on. I have yet to see or know anyone who was able to completely get rid of all that baggage and move back in with their x's.
So...in response to your question...I love everything about my single life - even the bill paying, the sick children, birthdays, holidays and the like. I love it all!!!
d2b
Re: What do you like about not being married JASPER: What I love about not being married is I get to stay out as late as I want I don't have to get approval for things I want to do.I love that my house is always clean,and I don't have to cook if I dont want to.I can wear what ever I want I can talk to whoever I want without someone feeling jealous or angry.I love that my car is my car and I dont have to share it.I love that my friends came come over and hang out whenever they want.I love not having any obligations or responsibilties to anyone but myself.
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