Re: I'm going to look at it this way... turboss: I want to live by this so bad but the hurt is so deep, how long does it take the hurt to go away. I feel like i need to save my husband from self destruction but on the other hand, i feel like i need to find a way to move on. The love in me is so great, i don't understand why I am not hurt enough to want to go on....can any one give me a time frame here and break it down to me?
turboss
Re: I'm going to look at it this way... Lumpy: [quote author=turboss link=topic=21009.msg196514#msg196514 date=1130617009">
I want to live by this so bad but the hurt is so deep, how long does it take the hurt to go away. I feel like i need to save my husband from self destruction but on the other hand, i feel like i need to find a way to move on. The love in me is so great, i don't understand why I am not hurt enough to want to go on....can any one give me a time frame here and break it down to me?
turboss
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You can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved. You've got to let him figure it out for himself. In the meantime take care of yourself...
Re: I'm going to look at it this way... alonewith2: Flow, it's great that you are able to realize the good and bad points to your marriage. People think that the good points are only the "good times" during the marriage, but I like to think of them as the good things that we are able to realize about ourselves. You became a stay at home dad and raised your kids. That is a great accomplishment!
And the best realization that you have made, "I've discovered that I'm worth more. I don't have to compromise who I am to please anyone else. "
