Re: New here- my story ya_crow: Hi Crushed,
I wasn't married in the relationship which led me here either. It doesn't mean the hurt you are feeling is any less. It sounds like you have been going through a really though time right now but it will get better, there is a life out there for you containing highs you cannot imagine and unfortunately lows of the same magnitude. Be strong, deal with it ONE point at a time, lean on your friends and family and accept any help and assistance offered.
We're all here for you at OJAR, we'll listen, read and support.
Hang in there, you will get through this but it will hurt like hell and it won't be easy.
Re: New here- my story Lumpy: Try to remember who/what you were before you met her. She does not define you. Find yourself again.
Re: New here- my story ya_crow: http://ojar.com/boards/index.php/topic,18658.0.html
I still remember this on the days when it seems like everything is going wrong.
Re: New here- my story shockedandamazed: ya-crow - what a great story! It is true too....thanks!
Re: New here- my story moonshine: crushedman,
shes already moved on, you have to accept that. beleive me, if shes already with another man, you should take a character check on her. judging by how she used a certain recent incident, or incidences, she used that as her 'ticket out' of a relationship she was probably planning to get out of a while before she left you for this other man, and was waiting for the right 'mistake' to give her easy access out of there.
shes not going to grieve the relationship, shes done that in the final stages before leaving. you have to realize shes gone. dont hope, it wil take you further down. if she really wants to come back, she will. no amount of begging or hoping will make her. start your grieving process, it will be very confusing. you will think that its your fault and look past at your 'mistakes' and what-if yourself to death, but you are not at fault here. the only reason you will think youre at fault is because of the way she left you, so sudden and without warning. her selfishness to not work it out and jump it to another relationship with another man is the real fault here.
my suggestion to you is no contact what so ever at all. absolutely none. if you are even remotely thinking of it, stop yourself. do not, i repeat do not contact her. let her be, you will thank yourself for this. maintain your manhood and pride.
youre a good guy, know inside that you will stay strong.
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