One More SLAP in My Face! Bree: Well, there's been no contact for 2 days now, he was supposed to fix my washer thursday and never showed up. He calls me earlier. I answer and he asks if i'm home. I say no. He says he needs the remote to the tv (big screen-he sold it last weekend). I say I can get home that I'm not far, but that he needs to pay me the insurance $ he owes me (it comes out of my paycheck). He starts screaming about having to pay those 2 bills. One is the phone bill and the other is a loan he's still paying that he has for lawyers to fight the charges his ex-wife (the one he just left me for) -fighting charges SHE had against him. Anyway, he was fussing abou those 2 bills last week, trying to get me to pay on the phone bill. I said, well, you had $600 last week to pay them, but spent it on your "new family". This week I'm sure he'll have the other $400 from the tv plus probably $400 paycheck - and still can't pay them and pay me back a measly $90! He never even paid back for all the gas he debited out of MY checking acct. to parade them around to family/friends out of town! Is he not the most selfish b*********d??
Anyway, he got mad and would not obligate to pay me the $90. He said he'd call me back in about 2 hrs. Well, I looked around different stores and finally came home. I saw he'd picked up the remote ...it was gone! Mind you he doesn't have the key anymore, which means he broke in my house to get it. Also, a table I have photos on has one missing (but I can't place what photo it is, but it's gone. I called him, he did not answer. I left a voicemail and asked if he'd been in my house. A few minutes later I called back and was going to lv a msg that I was calling the police, but he answered. He was a total a--hole. He admitted he broke into the house. He wanted to fuss, but kept saying he wasn't gonna argue w/me on the phone --b/c she was next to him in the car, he said he was half way down to Jax. So ...he thinks he can break into my house anf f******** me as far as what he owes me. I told him i'd call the police, he said go ahead. I haven't called, but am thinking of it just to make a report/record it. I have no proof, but he admitted it and if questioned, SHE was outside in the car so either she'd lie or whatever... I don't wish to press charges, but do you think I could just have it documented by the police? Any suggestions are appreciated.
It's just like another slap in the face over and over again. I was trying to be civil and get along for the baby's sake, b/c I did want to be able to let him see his son be born, but he really and truly does not deserve such a privledge. Any thoughts?
I posted this on my "pain" thread, but I need some advice and thought that nobody would notice it there. Thank you if you have any wisdom to offer me. I'm about to lose it here.
Re: One More SLAP in My Face! jem: It sounds to me like you are not dealing with someone who is trying to be civil or rational with you, so why should you do the same for him? Do whats best for you. If there's something he wants, hold it over his head until you get what you need from him. I don't know about filing the police report- I say, if it will make you feel better then do it. Good luck.
Jem
He just called to apologise Bree: ...he apologised for fussing and hanging up the phone on me. He's saying how unhappy he is and overwhelmed and feels like he'd be better off dead. He's saying he'll be over to fix my washer, etc. later. He doesn't know that i did call the police and document that he came in my house (locked -he has no key) without permission. The lady deputy said I can get him for criminal trespass if it happens again or I can choose to press charges & have this time investigated. I don't want that. I do have to take care of me, though. Why do I now feel so damn guilty for calling. He had no remorse on the phone, he talked to me badly then hung up on me. Now it's as if he wants to lean on me about his problems. He says he's scared he'll lose the kids again. He must not be getting along w/ "mom". I'm hoping that's what it is. He won't really tell me. He's so unstable, it's not even funny! I hate that I care and these conflicting emotions are killing me. On the phone, i just kept saying I didn't desere his meanness and he would just apologise and say he couldn't take the fussing. I'm going crazy here.
