Re: Wife is 37 going on 16 Falcon554: Yea im sure your right, she wont find what she is looking for out there I know that. She thought I was a horrible husband, while I wasnt the best I was far from the worse. I did get caught up into myself and if I could go back and change things I would but I cant.
She seems to be wanting all this attention and it easy for her to get it. She is beautiful, and I told her that everyday but that did no good. She so missed all of that as a young woman, getting married at 18, was a mistake for her.
And the molestation that has taken place thru her whole family does not help at all. It is all hidden away and never talked about and never worked thru.
My big problem is we have a 8 year old and I have to deal with her and I do still enjoy talking to my wife, and the sex of course. She is a fun and crazy woman, im affraid tho im getting addicted to her. That scares me.
Ill date again and soon, but the one I want to date wants a divorce :(
Re: Wife is 37 going on 16 alonewith2: [quote author=Falcon554 link=topic=21043.msg196704#msg196704 date=1130685498">
As for her, she is going thru the same thing that yours flow, it makes her feel good now to have guys look at her, come on to her. But as weird as it sounds she does not want to let me go and I dont want to let her go either. Its just killing me. I have tried to let her go many times only to have her come back.
As for the relationship talk, yea its weird but agian we have grown up together, and im her best friend and she mine. I know its very weird but its how it is. i know eveything about hte affair and the other guys, bcause she told me everything. Not details but almost :(. I cant hate her, I cant not be there for her either, because if I needed her she would be there for me in a second.
Very strange relationship ill tell you.
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This isn't a strange relationship and reminds me so much of my own. My husband and I are best friends and neither of us seem to want to let the other go. He keeps telling me, that there has to be something there or he could easily walk away as he has done so many other times with past girlfriends. The difference is I'm not just a girlfriend, but his wife. We have a child together. Our relationship lasted longer than any of his other ones. It is hard to break those bonds and just move on. Especially when you both are still clinging to each other.
The point is if he really wanted to be with me, then he would be. Right now, no matter what he says, he's just stringing me along until all the other available options have been played out.
You need to do what is right for the both of you. If you truely cared for her and wanted her to be happy, you would leave her alone and let her find her own way. If it leads back to you, then that's great. By having sex together you are only hampering what relationships you may form with other people. You won't be able to really committ to someone else if you are still sleeping with your wife. Neither will she. So you will forever be stuck in this limbo until you both go your separate ways and see where the path takes you.
Re: Wife is 37 going on 16 Falcon554: [quote author=alonewith2 (s-n-b) link=topic=21043.msg196721#msg196721 date=1130687771">
[quote author=Falcon554 link=topic=21043.msg196704#msg196704 date=1130685498">
As for her, she is going thru the same thing that yours flow, it makes her feel good now to have guys look at her, come on to her. But as weird as it sounds she does not want to let me go and I dont want to let her go either. Its just killing me. I have tried to let her go many times only to have her come back.
As for the relationship talk, yea its weird but agian we have grown up together, and im her best friend and she mine. I know its very weird but its how it is. i know eveything about hte affair and the other guys, bcause she told me everything. Not details but almost :(. I cant hate her, I cant not be there for her either, because if I needed her she would be there for me in a second.
Very strange relationship ill tell you.
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This isn't a strange relationship and reminds me so much of my own. My husband and I are best friends and neither of us seem to want to let the other go. He keeps telling me, that there has to be something there or he could easily walk away as he has done so many other times with past girlfriends. The difference is I'm not just a girlfriend, but his wife. We have a child together. Our relationship lasted longer than any of his other ones. It is hard to break those bonds and just move on. Especially when you both are still clinging to each other.
The point is if he really wanted to be with me, then he would be. Right now, no matter what he says, he's just stringing me along until all the other available options have been played out.
You need to do what is right for the both of you. If you truely cared for her and wanted her to be happy, you would leave her alone and let her find her own way. If it leads back to you, then that's great. By having sex together you are only hampering what relationships you may form with other people. You won't be able to really committ to someone else if you are still sleeping with your wife. Neither will she. So you will forever be stuck in this limbo until you both go your separate ways and see where the path takes you.
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Yea your right but what scares me is that I think I like the limbo :( She has gone nuts, she had an affair but in all honesty she broke up with me like 3 days after it started, she never wanted to hurt me but she has devestaed me.
Its so hard to see someoen you made love to for 21 years and not want to be with her. I would love to go out with someone else but I dont think anyone wants me. The one woman I ask out said "maybe" :(
So for any kinda of adult contact all i have is her. Again sex is what we do well lol. Hell the day she told me about the affair we had sex 2 times. I so want to move on, i so want to stop the pain, but I so want to have her in my life to. Just to talk to her makes me happy.
For the last 5 months up untill the last 3 weeks we talked everyday, 4 to 7 times a day. Saw her almost everyday. So in reality we never broke up. But now it seems we really have. The last time we had sex before yesterday was not good we both were very angry, but yesterday it was very nice. IF that is the last time then im happy it was good.
I do miss her so much, I do miss the love tho, and I need love back in my life from someone.
Re: Wife is 37 going on 16 Falcon554: Just found this old post I did wow 9 months ago. How time flys. Quick update, we are together but divorced. Seems to work well so far. I treat her better then ever and she does the same. We get along great and I dont bring anything UP!!! lol.
Hope all are good
Scott
Re: Wife is 37 going on 16 Whirlpool: Whats up man. Wow your story never did get normal did it! Now divorced and living together. I can't talk, I am getting divorced but living apart and going on a cruise with her this month lol. I am glad you are content, wish I was.
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