Re: Sex with the ex Lumpy: Dear Jessy,
Sounds ta me like you need to cut the strings. You're only hurting yourself by playing along with her. Is this satisfying to you? It certainly doesn't sound like it. You don't want to have sex with your ex, you want her to make love to you. I think the longer you play and pretend it's going to be that much harder to recapture what you had. That may not be possible anyway but continuing this is going to make it an impossibility. Do you want to be just another lay to her? Is that all she is to you? As hard as it will be I think you need to put a stop to the pattern the two of you are falling into. Sounds to me like there's some love left on both sides. Have you suggested counseling? Don't give up trying to save your marriage. Just give up the sex until the two of you decide whether or not you can make it work.
Re: Sex with the ex Jessy_Miami: Yeah, counceling never worked.. the guy was more interested in our money and he simply said that our marriage was in deep trouble because she didn't want to work on it.
During this last hurricane Wilma crisis in south florida, she called me several times and told me she really missed me, but this was because she was alone, and not going out.. yesterday, she was able to party so she doesn't miss me anymore.. *sight*
One thing though. She feels guilty, she seems unconfortable with me when she's going out, as if she knew she's doing something wrong but I keep reasurring her that is her life, and she's free to do as she pleases. however, saying those words really really make my hearth ache.
Re: Sex with the ex Wolfman: hey jes, why can't you just ignore her? i'm trying that no "coms." method, so far i'm going on me 7th day without talking or seeing her.
Re: Sex with the ex Lumpy: [quote author=Jessy_Miami link=topic=21050.msg196790#msg196790 date=1130698829">
Yeah, counceling never worked.. the guy was more interested in our money and he simply said that our marriage was in deep trouble because she didn't want to work on it.
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Find another counselour. Just from the tone of your posts I can tell there is still love there from your side. That being said he is right about one thing. It's dead if she's not willing to try. By the way, she can't replace you with partying. That is a quick fix and very temporary.
Re: Sex with the ex Jessy_Miami: I tried it, and it worked for three months.. but, to tell you the thruth.. I felt like a little kid, I mean she is the mother of my two kids... how I'm not supposed to comunicate with her?
And to make things worst... when we do NOT comunicate and we have a chance to talk, we talk for HOURS. She then starts telling me all this things about all men are the same, but I'm special, and cute and hot and good father blah blah... I fall for this things, then I start to get in the casanova mood and tell her nice things too and try to seduce her. When all this happens we have the best sex. So, no.. not talking to her, in my case does not help a bit. She boosts my confidence ten fold when she tells me all the things she tells me. And it does NOT help a bit the fact that she is a very hot and attractive woman. So there's a physical and emotional aspect, making things harder.
I guess the only thing that had helped me during separation is the fact that I live alone, so if I don't call her i don't feel anything... it's just when I see her or know shes partying.
She is talking to the divorce lawyers, and told me she wants to expedite the process because it makes her feel 'bad' to go partying!! WTF??? I could get laid with a woman right now and not feel a pint of guilt.. after all, I was the dumped one.
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