Re: Sex with the ex Wolfman: To be honest, I think it was when I started having sex with her again, well at first she would send me picture txt of herself naked and stuff, then it would move on to ok, well let's go out for lunch for the sake of the kids, then it was one day lets go shopping, then one day let's go to the gym, and then before I knew it I was back in the grind.
I think sex may play a role in emotional status (just my theory). Which is why i cut off talking with her since last saturday... and i tell you i'm feeling pain, like a rollercoaster...lol issues issues issues
Re: Sex with the ex Jessy_Miami: [quote author=Wolfman link=topic=21050.msg196744#msg196744 date=1130691466">
you live together still? and you guys have kids or no? Your personality sounds a lot like mine. I'm in a very similar situation dude..i'm like 28.. i also had sex with my ex 4 times (very wierd coincidence) in the past month.. i divorced her in '03... and i started to see her cuz of my son.
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No, we sold our house. With the money I bough her and the kids a town home and I rented near work. I'm much better right now.. In fact, I find that NOT knowing what she is doing makes me feel better. But still... It's so strange that a person changes so much. In fact, I just went downstairs to give her the kids (I had them with me last night) because she was going to a haloween private party.
I don't feel like partying.. call me old, but I'm so past the clubbing scene... you only meet empty headed girls (not all, granted) but most.
I'm pretty sure I can have any girl I want, problem is NOT wanting one for being affraid to be hurt again, my wife was humble, came from a not to wealthy family, she loved to cook.. today, she's a teen going out every night and doesn't even seem to care about the kids... she is only concerned with her looks and what club is hot.
But how can she possibly have sex with me, talk every night with two guys who call her regularly and claim to be in love with her (one is a co-worker) and go party with strangers every night and feel good about this??? is the world going mad or I'm old fashion?
She was the most tender, loving person you can imagine... in fact, when we started dating she had just dumped her boyfriend... and, trust me, at the time I was very fit, and always dressed to impress and had a good ability to click with any woman I spoke to. I tried everything imaginable to impress her, and even though she was clearly, clearly wanting me to kiss her, she avoided me because of her 'religious' teachings and she wanted to wait a while before anything happened between the two. I even took her one night when whe were dating to a lonely beach in the country we are from (Venezuela, were we lived before moving to Miami) and bought those bamboo sticks to make a road to a white velvet sheet full of roses with wine and strawberries, we were both semi drunk, no inhibitions. We spoke from 8:00PM to dawn... and when I tried to kiss her she begged me not to try it again. Hello??? it was JUST A KISS... She said she felt she was trully in love, but that she could not feel good about herself kissing a man after ending a 2 year relation with another man so soon.. now, soon was 4 months ago, so gimme a break.. this girls was either the best actress i've known OR she really had values. This is why all this comes as a shock to me. Maybe she's not getting laid or kissing anyone (wishful thinking), and just having fun... but, after 12 years in a marriage and so much sex I think she turned into a whore with no values.. I might be wrong. but something inside tells me, i'm not, and that she is trully enyoing this new life.
If someone like she is capable of doing this, then as you can imagine I find it very hard to trust any other woman.
P.D I had an emotional affair early in the marriage, to reassure myself I was able to seduce girls (I was VERY immature). It was emotional and only one kiss plus many dinners. She eventually found out, and always though I had sex with this girl. It also made her feel insecure, because this girl was gorgeous and she was a co-worker and they both knew each other.
Re: Sex with the ex Wolfman: man, tell you the truth jess, not knowing what our ex does in fact helps, but also raises questions with me, concerns or just like you put it "wishful thinking". Dude your not old, Clubbing was a pathetic phase in my life, if I had the chance I would take back every clubbing day i've ever experienced because all you find are whores, hookers, players and cheaters (in my opinion).
I envy your attitude about your confidence with girls, and how you are able to have confidence about getting another one.
Dude, lemme say this, your not old you and I are in our prime. Once an ex always an ex. If I had the confidence I would get another girl like you should be doing. Not five or ten, just one. Definetely don't find her in a club or some skimpy dressed party, or a beer party lolz. It's gotta be a homely place. don't be afraid. You seem like your a wealthy guy.
Dude, I don't know how she can have sex with you and then go out with other dudes, I believe it's what my ex did too, but i am just as guilty as her though, only difference is i didn't go have sex with other girls.. She's probably doing it so that she doesn't think she's "totally" lost you.
Girls can be tender and emotionally addicting. Sounds like your a romantic guy. Don't go down for that look upward as a plus quality to the fact that you have strong confindence in finding another woman, fact that you can hold your own finances..
the mind does have trouble letting go though... this is a battle no doubt
Re: Sex with the ex Jessy_Miami: [quote author=Wolfman link=topic=21050.msg196766#msg196766 date=1130694867">
I envy your attitude about your confidence with girls, and how you are able to have confidence about getting another one.
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It means nothing if they well cheat and hurt you dude. I'm not wealthy, but I earn good money and have a great job. I don't spend too much, so the surplus is always either for the kids or family members (I don't usually save). Almost 80% of our assests are hers now... I really don't have a problem with that, I have never been a money lover because one way or another I've had any material thing I've dreamed of and it didn't make me any happier... in fact, I found out that money in most cases was a reason for unhapiness because when you attach to it you become a materialistic person and make your purpose in life to accumulate wealth.
I don't think life ends when you die, and you surely don't take any money with you when you do, so life purpose has to be more related to what you are, what you do and how you change people lives.
I would call myself extremely lucky, I've been through everything you can imagine, but to this date, my wife affairs and her current attitude were the hardest blows. I know I'll eventually recover and laught about this post if I'm able to read it in 20 years.. but today, I feel particularly down... I can't imagine my princess in some stranger arms, and I'm not able to hate her even if I try.
What really really hurts me, is that I know we can't be together again... once a cheater.. ALWAYS a cheater :(
Re: Sex with the ex Wolfman: [quote author=Jessy_Miami link=topic=21050.msg196773#msg196773 date=1130696246">
[quote author=Wolfman link=topic=21050.msg196766#msg196766 date=1130694867">
I envy your attitude about your confidence with girls, and how you are able to have confidence about getting another one.
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It means nothing if they well cheat and hurt you dude. I'm not wealthy, but I earn good money and have a great job. I don't spend too much, so the surplus is always either for the kids or family members (I don't usually save). Almost 80% of our assests are hers now... I really don't have a problem with that, I have never been a money lover because one way or another I've had any material thing I've dreamed of and it didn't make me any happier... in fact, I found out that money in most cases was a reason for unhapiness because when you attach to it you become a materialistic person and make your purpose in life to accumulate wealth.
I don't think life ends when you die, and you surely don't take any money with you when you do, so life purpose has to be more related to what you are, what you do and how you change people lives.
I would call myself extremely lucky, I've been through everything you can imagine, but to this date, my wife affairs and her current attitude were the hardest blows. I know I'll eventually recover and laught about this post if I'm able to read it in 20 years.. but today, I feel particularly down... I can't imagine my princess in some stranger arms, and I'm not able to hate her even if I try.
What really really hurts me, is that I know we can't be together again... once a cheater.. ALWAYS a cheater :(
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how right you are. Once a cheater well, Always a cheater, you can Never take that back. you see i hate that aspect. Why does someone have to cheat? why? why can't there be a normal way? . It hurts today and it may hurt later, it will ease over time. as they always say, "fly with me, man i'll be your wingman". you don't have to fly solo in this, i'm down with you today, but tommorrow is a new day and everyday it will ease up (cross my fingers). Nothing I will say now that will take us out of this emotional black hole for me as of yet, and i'm hoping soon.
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