Overrated Concept crushedman: If you were 'meant' to be together, then you will.
Really? Based on that concept, then all elderly people (or nearly all) should be in preordained fullfilling relationships. Providence has had time to take its course, now everything has worked out to the way it's 'supposed' to.
But wait- the vast majority of elderly people are NOT in fulfilling relationships.
Le'ts think about this realistically. This is what it's about: what do you have to offer me? Everyone has plusses and minuses. But net net, do your plusses outweigh your minuses? And for the people that have been left, our minuses obviously outweighed our plusses (from our SOs perspective). So we are to blame. Let's cry. Let's complain. Let's look for sympathy. Let's lean on cliches to support us (read: 'it wasn't meant to be'). Let's do what we say that our SOs have done- blame everyone else but ourselves. Let's deny. Let's fantasize. Let's refuse to face reality. The fantasy is so much more fun and easy to accept. Let's say that the problem was with our SO and not us.
I'm in. Who is with me?
Re: Overrated Concept Wolfman: -Time in
Re: Overrated Concept qualt: i know i have faults but i at least had the maturity to face them and i changed alot of them. i agree that "if it was meant to be it will be" is complete BS. if that was true then the fact that we got married was it "being". that saying is just a way for them to externalize the guilt into in an attempt to convince us that its not there faulot they are unfaithful that they simply were victims of some cosmic force.
