Re: sexual partners BONILLAK: LOL yes I am such a slut! Actually I would love to be with my friend right now. Why is it I find a guy who just does it for me sexually for the first time and he is afraid of really falling for me?!?!?! I was never one really into sex, I actually thought it was more like a chore and now I WANT it from my friend and he has to be the scared type of guy! Just my luck!!!
Re: sexual partners ga_sunshyne: Wolfman....I tend to disagree with "what you don't know won't hurt you". I have only had 3 partners my entire life....the first of those for 22 years. THen within 1 year of separation/divorce 2 others. However, even if the number of partners does not bother a person, the issue of STD's and safe sex should be an issue. You should know whether or not they are clean, safe, whatever you want to call it. As the old saying goes you have slept with everyone that they have slept with and so forth and so on.....
Once I found that my XH was cheating on me...I made a bee line to my Dr.'s office and demanded that I be tested for every possible STD that I could.
Re: sexual partners jadedangel: [quote author=ga_sunshyne link=topic=21064.msg198055#msg198055 date=1130953497">
Wolfman....I tend to disagree with "what you don't know won't hurt you". I have only had 3 partners my entire life....the first of those for 22 years. THen within 1 year of separation/divorce 2 others. However, even if the number of partners does not bother a person, the issue of STD's and safe sex should be an issue. You should know whether or not they are clean, safe, whatever you want to call it. As the old saying goes you have slept with everyone that they have slept with and so forth and so on.....
Once I found that my XH was cheating on me...I made a bee line to my Dr.'s office and demanded that I be tested for every possible STD that I could.
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[color=navy"> I can agree with the STD factor. You want to know the sexual history for health reasons --- but there is also another factor of -- how well did they actually know who they were sleeping with isn't there? I mean .. if you had slept with x number of random guys --- vs sleeping with x number of guys you truly know, cared about and trusted at a point -- there is a different perspective there. A guy in a bar --- or a boyfriend you knew ... can hold very different implications.
I think when WM talked about 'what you don't know can't hurt you' ... he was speaking more for the health of the emotional relationship -- when you meet someone and want to be with them .. you don't want to have to envision multiple other people being with them.
So ... I kina think .. 'being around' ... is not just some way to classify a person when they state a number of partners ....I think you need to take a look at the whole picture ...
