Re: wife stopped by... stayed for dinner... Falcon554: God I wish you luck. I know sometimes I read way to much into my wifes actions and words. Get my hopes up so high only to have them crushed when she starts seeing other guys.
Good luck!! hope your on the right direction.
Re: wife stopped by... stayed for dinner... Irony: Thanks, Falcon:
I just know what I'm doing now is better than what I had been doing.
She's already left, so Ireally have nothing to lose by being the best me I can be.
BTW, have lost 25 lbs on the "anxiety diet" and walk nearly every day.
That's got to be the tooughest one.. her seeing other guys.
I wish you well through your tough period.
Re: wife stopped by... stayed for dinner... Irony: not sure where to go from here but I have put an email together for her and was thinking of sending it to her.. here it is. I plagerized some of it from posts I found here and on the DB boards, so excuse me if some of it might sound familiar to any of you.
I'd really appreciate any opiniions or suggestions.
D----:
I enjoyed our time together last night. Glad I could help you get your stuff. Glad you stayed for supper, and it was nice to catch up with your week out on the front porch.
Glad you are doing so well.
I now truly understand why you wanted to separate. I realize that I have been running from my emotions, afraid to face the truth inside that we either go through with separation and possible divorce, or just roll up our sleeves and fix things right. I would never ever want our old marriage back, but the road back would be long and hard and I'm not sure I would be up to the task right now anyway.
We both have a lot of baggage to deal with.
(where is that SkyCap anyway?)
I'm very confused here and need time to think, and, just like you, I need my space and distance as well.
I'm trying to look ahead, rather than behind. What's done is done and the only history I can change is future history. In the meantime I will live with a joyful heart. I'm creating the kind of life situation I want to see for myself, with you or without you. I realize that the only one who can make me happy is...well...me.
I'm glad that I have been able to win the respect of your family, especially Ian and Ashlea.
Their respect is very important to me and I love them very much.
As I've stated before, my door is always open and I'll leave the light on for you.
If at some point you ever get tired of being gone, then I guess we'll need to talk. I can't make any promises however. I’m doing everything possible these days to remove you from my heart to spare myself any more pain It's not easy, but I need to do this for myself. You were my one true "once in a lifetime love – the only one I ever wanted, but as the song goes… “That was yesterday…”
"Never let the pain in your heart drown the song in your soul"
Phil
Re: wife stopped by... stayed for dinner... Falcon554: [quote author=Irony link=topic=21080.msg197042#msg197042 date=1130770113">
Thanks, Falcon:
I just know what I'm doing now is better than what I had been doing.
She's already left, so Ireally have nothing to lose by being the best me I can be.
BTW, have lost 25 lbs on the "anxiety diet" and walk nearly every day.
That's got to be the tooughest one.. her seeing other guys.
I wish you well through your tough period.
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The seeing other guys is the easy part, I was there for the break up of the affair, getting updates on my phone ever 2 hours or so, his wife called my wife, I found out she gave him 400 bucks. It was a week of weirdness ill tell you. Then when it was all done I got the please stay and make love to me, Yea she did that and im stupid I did it to. :(
Now that she is seeing someone named Shane, I know she will use me as a freind because Saturday night she called me to chekc up on our daughter and then I got the "well shane and I got in our first fight" Im like sweet hope he beats you. J/K :)
I was there to when one of the guys she did wanted to have sex with her and she did not want to and he tried to rape her. She came home to me a mess and I was there to try and make it better.
See Karma needs to slap my wife so hard and knock off the new belly button ring she got on Saturday.
Re: wife stopped by... stayed for dinner... Irony: [quote author=Falcon554 link=topic=21080.msg197153#msg197153 date=1130786495">
See Karma needs to slap my wife so hard and knock off the new belly button ring she got on Saturday.
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It's easy to feel bitter in our situation Falcon. That Karma thing is scary though.. be careful what you wish for. Before I met my wife, I wished for someone to love and to settle down with.
I got my wish and met her, even though she lived 847 miles away at the time.
When things go tough, I wished for her to go away.
I got my wish again.
D*mn I'm good.
So now I wish for her to come home..
I guess time will tell.
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