do i just have bad luck ?need advice dolbaby1977: hey all of you. it has been a while since i have been on here.. however, to all of those who think that u will never get over your "x"....you will... i , for one, thought and truly believed that i would never wake up again and smile without HIM.....but i did, and i still do. i was so in love with this man, and i really believed that our kids would help us, or make my marrige work. it does not.. however, i am able to talk to him,, and we can even go out sometimes. its strange, but one day, or one month, you will wake up and realize that you do have a life, and it just does involve you being n love with him... so its a new beginning, not and ending......ok, i just wanted to let everyone know that one say the sun will shine on you, and it will be great, and it will be your day......
ok,, now for my dating issue..ughhhhhh!!!!( we are not seeing each other anymore)
so, i started seeing a sumone. i will call him my "friend".. and i really really like him..he is so different from me, and not a man that i would normally go out with.. however , in the end, i let my gaurds down, and i really fell for him. which im so mad at myself. i was seeing him for about 6ish months, and we had a great time. we went on trips, he did the whole cooking thing for me, everything was great. him and i connected, so i thought.. anyhow,, the huge huge problem is/was that he IS my boss. ughh, i know i know, dont ever do that....( at our job, it is a big no no, u are not allowed to date someone that is "below" you.. well we did, and it ended, just a few weeks ago, and now im hurt, so hurt.. why am i always the one to get hurt? i am a very lovey, nurturing person, and i adore and give all i can to the one i care about.anyhow, i have talked to him a few times since then, but it hurts,,,,,i dont like working w him any more, i feel uncomfy, i guess i just cant see him as my "boss" anymore. at work, he still is very nice, so it isnt like he is trying to be nasty w me. we didnt end on bad terms, basically he says that he cant do his job properly and see me. and thats that. no real good bye, no closure, nuthing. so i wonder what hes thinking, or how he is feeling...please know that the whole time we were dating, we never had any huge fights, and he was always respectufl of me, and he showed me that he cared.. very much.. he isnt a man to show he feelings or really talk about them.. he is a loner ,and enjoys he own time, and i can appreciate that...however, he did start to open up, and i saw him doing "lil" things that showed me that he cared... so now ,im lost, i want to talk to him, i did call and leave him a message yesterday, he didnt call back.. the few times we have talked on the phone, we didnt discuss anything about us, at all. basically it was just about catching up... im sorry that this post is kinda long, and probably sounds a lil crazy, but im feeling a lil bit crazy now a days... any advice i appreciate very much...oh, i cant talk to ANYONE about this that i know, since his job would be terminated...which makes it hard one me, since i need to get it out!!! thank you all.. much love!!!
Re: do i just have bad luck ?need advice dolbaby1977: thank you for your advice... hmm, well he wasnt really a "rebound".. i dont think. however, i wasnt really over my x until i really starteds caring for him.. i mean through my seperation w my x,, i did "talk" to other guys.. not alot of dating though. still not really sure how to do that... yes, we r still civil w each other, its just really hard. today for example is a big paint ball party for employees, i dont play paint ball, but there is beer, food, etc, and it would be alot of fun, except, he is there.. so....im not going. guess i just cant see him out of work yet. i dont know. i really want to go, but i dont want him to think im there just to see him....crazy crazy!!!!!
