Re: Just had a long talk with my ex... frontier74: It took awhile to figure out what it is that bothers me so much about my XW and her new BF, but I think I've finally got it: After completely tearing our lives apart to search for "something better," this is the best she could come up with -- sleeping with a married man. I feel really insulted. I'm sure she didn't leave with this in mind, but come on, she was supposed to be improving her situation, not merely screwing up someone else's.
Now, when the question of whether the divorce was a good thing arises, I have to say, "Well, not for her, it seems." It would have been far more comforting if we'd both gone on to be happy. I guess I just have to accept that her happiness in no longer my business.
Re: Just had a long talk with my ex... Lumpy: [quote author=frontier74 link=topic=21500.msg202301#msg202301 date=1132011445">
Now, when the question of whether the divorce was a good thing arises, I have to say, "Well, not for her, it seems." It would have been far more comforting if we'd both gone on to be happy. I guess I just have to accept that her happiness in no longer my business.
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That last sentence says it all. This is not a happy person. You can't take responsibility for her bad choices. She wants to talk to her ex about relationship problems she's having with a married man? She's a cancer. Cut her out.
Re: Just had a long talk with my ex... manda: [quote author=frontier74 link=topic=21500.msg202301#msg202301 date=1132011445">
It took awhile to figure out what it is that bothers me so much about my XW and her new BF, but I think I've finally got it: After completely tearing our lives apart to search for "something better," this is the best she could come up with -- sleeping with a married man. I feel really insulted. I'm sure she didn't leave with this in mind, but come on, she was supposed to be improving her situation, not merely screwing up someone else's.
Now, when the question of whether the divorce was a good thing arises, I have to say, "Well, not for her, it seems." It would have been far more comforting if we'd both gone on to be happy. I guess I just have to accept that her happiness in no longer my business.
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WOW. All I can say is "wow". You should share the sentiment with her. Or not. I guess it doesn't matter if you do or not.
You know, it says something for you to say that if you'd both found more in life that you'd have been okay with it...
Re: Just had a long talk with my ex... lilly10: Some people just don't give a damn how many lives they tear apart. Shows that her only concern is herslef. Good for you for telling her you no longer want to associate with her. Who has room for this type of person to be in there life. I sure know I dont! I just can't believe that she picked you to share this problem of hers with??
