Re: Weak...... Watergod:
I read something that helped....you should really just do your best to love that person enough to wish them the best. I want to call my ex every day...and to email him everyday. I have to literally put the phone away from me to resist the urge. I wrote out a "life quest" of things I want to do. When those moments come...I get out my list and read what I can do to accomplish a quest. Research....or read about...something ANYthing so I am distracted.
Also..when for SOME reason we do talk...I am the happiest person.(Despite wanting to get hysterical and weepy like Jack on Will and Grace) Your ex will want to communicate with you more when you aren't doing the negative manipulation act. Put on a happy face...and be positive and cheerful...life is good....there are good things happening in your life.
Just what has been working for me. The worst thing is to start trying to get sympathy from someone who has dumped you...it just re-enforces their thoughts on deciding to dump you.
It IS tough as nails to do....but really is the best way to approach communication.
Re: Weak...... brandyrobin710: I find myself crying uncontrollably today. I was cleaning and ran across some of his clothes and I just can't seem to shake it. I've tried everything to keep my mind off of him. I don't understand why he left someone that loved him so much and would have done anything for him. Why hasn't he called me and why is he avoiding me? I had so hoped he would call me. I feel like he hates me for no reason. He tries his best to keep from seeing me. I'm afraid to call. I'm afraid it will hurt even more if he acts cold. I really need some help right now. Why can't he hurt like this? Why can't he miss me this much? I don't understand any of this. I've never hurt like this before and I'm feeling hopeless and alone. I just want him back so much.....
Re: Weak...... Watergod: I SO hear you on that! Those moments hit you at the least expected. It really stinks! Sometimes I get mad...other times I cry...other times I just lay down and take a nap because I need to check out for a while. Then the dogs bark to go out...the phone rings....it is time to make dinner...I have to change the laundry....I let life move me along in it's current...until I can start to paddle again.
Re: Weak...... SER: Thanks for your post. I am going through the exact same feelings right now. I was doing so well for the last week, and then I suddenly woke up upset in the middle of the night and just sobbed for hours. I felt so sad and lonely. I have noticed that I become most weak on Thursday, mostly dreading the coming weekend. I wish I could offer some advice, but hopefully it will help to know your far from alone in your experiences. Hopefully we can help each other figure this out.
Re: Weak...... malex1984: i know the rollercoaster all too well.
My ex left me 2.5 months ago and i think about her everyday, i loved her so much and always thought we would be together forever and then she cheated on me and moved out.
I get the urge to call her everyday or send her an email with the pictures of our dog and cat which we lived with for 3 years. (she left them with me)
But i must say that she is so cold that whenever i send her a message she never replies and it hurts even more, or when i see her i realise that she is not the person i loved for so long and how much she has changed in a short period of time.
It is so tough and a good week can turn into a bad week so quickly and i find myself feeling like crying but you need to stick to your guns, it is the only way
