Re: She called and wants to come over ;D NAWWAL: Excuse me please I dont mean to butt in....................
I did the same thing with my ex, anytime he would come around it would all come back to sex and it was good........very good. At some point I took a look at myself though and realized I was worth more than that and as much as I still loved him I couldn't do that not only to myself but to my kids. It was one of the hardest things I ever did and I craved his touch for a long time. Like any other addiction though the cravings faded over time and I am a stronger person for having gone throught it all.
I am not by any means judging either one of you. I know what a hard thing it is when the person you promised to be with forever and who has your heart in their hand is ready to go..........................
Irony: take it one step at a time like they said, I know that it is hard not to hope but try the laid back approach. Take your cue from her and really pay attention to what she is really saying, women are famous for the "If he doesn't know Im not telling him" crap. (Yes even me :P)
Falcon: I hope for your sake you can break the cycle, just because it does something to your heart when you love someone, it is hard to seperate sex and love sometimes. But hey if it works for you *shrug* more power to you. It worked for me for almost 3 years so who am I to say..... LOL
Re: She called and wants to come over ;D Irony: [quote author=nawwal link=topic=21503.msg201057#msg201057 date=1131724635">
Excuse me please I dont mean to butt in....................
Irony: take it one step at a time like they said, I know that it is hard not to hope but try the laid back approach. Take your cue from her and really pay attention to what she is really saying, women are famous for the "If he doesn't know Im not telling him" crap. (Yes even me :P)
orked for me for almost 3 years so who am I to say..... LOL
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Thanks nawwal..definitely going to let her take the lead and will have all three ears open.
Two to hear and one to interpret.. or maybe the other way around. Not gonna say a word about our marriage or relationship and if she brings it up I'm all ears (and no mouth, escept to validate her feelings.
Seriously, no expectations other than that.. only fantasies.
Re: She called and wants to come over ;D NAWWAL: Big hugs......................
[quote"> Seriously, no expectations other than that.. only fantasies.[/quote">
Oh man do I know this feeling. It is a tough place to be. But the dream you do not chase to the end is the dream that will haunt you.
I really hope it goes well for you. IMHO....women like to feel safe and protected but we also dont want to feel railroaded into anything. So sound like you are on the right track with your thinking.
I will be thinking of you and hoping everything goes well for you.
Re: She called and wants to come over ;D Irony: She should be here any minute.. now where's that ativan? ??? ::)
Re: She called and wants to come over ;D Falcon554: [quote author=nawwal link=topic=21503.msg201057#msg201057 date=1131724635">
Excuse me please I dont mean to butt in....................
I did the same thing with my ex, anytime he would come around it would all come back to sex and it was good........very good. At some point I took a look at myself though and realized I was worth more than that and as much as I still loved him I couldn't do that not only to myself but to my kids. It was one of the hardest things I ever did and I craved his touch for a long time. Like any other addiction though the cravings faded over time and I am a stronger person for having gone throught it all.
I am not by any means judging either one of you. I know what a hard thing it is when the person you promised to be with forever and who has your heart in their hand is ready to go..........................
Irony: take it one step at a time like they said, I know that it is hard not to hope but try the laid back approach. Take your cue from her and really pay attention to what she is really saying, women are famous for the "If he doesn't know Im not telling him" crap. (Yes even me :P)
Falcon: I hope for your sake you can break the cycle, just because it does something to your heart when you love someone, it is hard to seperate sex and love sometimes. But hey if it works for you *shrug* more power to you. It worked for me for almost 3 years so who am I to say..... LOL
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3 years!!! wow. :) I dont think its anything it really isnt. It just sex, now there have been times in the last 5 month that it was love on both are parts but now its just sex. And im ok with it now, its not offen at all and well Im not seeing anyone right now. When I do it will stop trust me im not like that.
That is if it is serious. We talked about this way before we started to have problems and we agreed if we both wernt seeing anyone serious that we could do this. Im not saying its easy, at times its been really hard for me but I really need sex alot and better with someoen who I do care for then some slut off the street and I know myself It would be some slut off the street :(
We never had your normal relationship, or marriage. Its been different from day one and still is wacky. Again it may not be healthy or right but for now its all I have. I know im worthy of being loved but inside im not ready to let this woman go. So I deal with the pain.
But I see if a few months or whenever this will stop and we can be friends, we will always be friends and whoever gets involved with either of us will have to know that. Im not going to spend 21 years of my 41 years with a woman to never be friends with her after a really bad 5 months. Im not that cold or heartless. She isnt either.
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