my story BlackAndBlue: Hi to all
I am new here, but have been lurking for a while. I guess I was kind of looking for support when I first found this board. I am amazed by the stories that I have read here. I have felt alone for quite a while now.
I have been married for 3 years, dated for 12. I spent half of my life with him. Things were getting really good. I got a promotion at work and was sent away for 6 weeks to train for my new position. I had asked a friend to check up on my husband and my cat while I was away. When I got home everything seemed great. We were remodeling our kitchen and ending up spending most nights together, just the two of us.
About three weeks after I got home we went to a movie and invited my friend to come with us. I don't know why, but I had a feeling deep inside that something was just not right. Labor day weekend I came home early from work and my husband was MIA. I called and called. He finally anwered and said he was with some friends. I asked him to come home to spend soem time together. Four hours later he strolls in. I knew something was wrong, I knew he was lying. I told him that I drove to my friends house that night and saw his car there. (I really did not drive there, just trying to get something out of him.) He told me he was sorry and that he did not want to find out this way.
My husband and one of my best friends....... how could this happen?? He told me that he was not in love with me anymore and that he believes he never was. He loves her and she loves him. Talk about ripping out someone's heart!! He ended up moving out and now they are in a relationship. I live in our house and I am completely devastated.
It has been 10 weeks. I am still hurting and wondering when it will start to get better. I was betrayed by two people in my life. She was a bridesmaid in my wedding and now she has her arms around the man I spent half of my life with. How can she do this?? She knows how much I love him. When will the healing begin? I am tired being sad and crying everyday..............
Thanks for listening, it is nice to know that I am not alone, but sad to see how many selfish people there are in the world.
Re: my story emcee: these things always seem to come out of no where. i am just starting today realizing that my x has a new man, so i guess we will be doing this together, i hurt to so i have no advice but at least you are not alone :)
Re: my story Suddenly Single: First off, you need some BIG ((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))) !!!!!
I know what it is like to be betrayed by someone you married but the betrayal of not only a husband and a best friend has got to be just devastating.
You will get stronger and the tears WILL flow less and less. Remember you are not only mourning the loss and relationship of a husband but also that of a friend. That is a lot , in my opinion.
Welcome here, this place is wonderful and has helped me tremendously and I've enjoyed watching so many others grow and heal here also!!! (I've been here awhile! ;D)
HUGS to you. SS
Re: my story manda: [quote author=BlackAndBlue link=topic=21516.msg201134#msg201134 date=1131737376"> Thanks for listening, it is nice to know that I am not alone, but sad to see how many selfish people there are in the world.
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It is sad. I think sometimes on here it appears that there are a lot of selfish people in the world, but just remember that we were kind of driven here because of that, sometimes...so maybe it isn't a fair assumption. Let's hope not so we can have some hope for a better future.
You definitely HAVE experienced selfishness though. I'm so sorry.
I just wanted to say that I'm glad you have joined because you will find some comfort here, and it sounds as though you really need some. (((hug))
