Re: an email from my stbx jadedangel: [color=navy"> Good luck Tweety ....
I just hope it doesn't drag your emotions through the mud -- but you know we will be here whenever you need to let us know it did ;) ... You are a stronger person than me .. [/color">
Re: an email from my stbx hardened_heart1970: thats cool. im glad it works for you...
just a tip from a guy. be very careful. as long as your talking, he probably thinks he can come back in, and have you back. this, is how most guys think. i think, they think.
dont want to rain on your parade. please be cautious. thanks
Re: an email from my stbx twetifb: Thanks Jaded & Goose...you both brought up some good points. Talking to him will drag my emotions through the mud a little but it'll help me heal. At the end of the conversation last night, he made a comment that us talking again was healthy for him. He's right too, I felt lighter today than I have in a while. I am a little worried that he'll think us talking means there's hope for us but I tried to make it clear and I'm sure he understood. We've been friends in the past between breakups, so I have always had hope we could remain friends after we divorce.
Thanks for listening!
Re: an email from my stbx Bea: Good luck, Tweety.
My EX expressed a desire to start communicating again a few weeks ago and we've been in contact, if you can call "contact" to a couple e-mails and a short phone call. I sent him a long message telling him how I felt about talking to him again and he said he was going to reply... nothing so far! I still don't know if he really meant it or he was just being nice and right now I'm not expecting anything anymore. I just hate it that he kinda sorta opened the door and then left the room, if you know what I mean.
I don't know why I wish to speak to someone who was horrible to me and who has shown no desire to talk to me in about a year, though... I probably am stupid.
Re: an email from my stbx techick: [quote author=goose tape man link=topic=21532.msg201758#msg201758 date=1131895085">
thats cool. im glad it works for you...
just a tip from a guy. be very careful. as long as your talking, he probably thinks he can come back in, and have you back. this, is how most guys think. i think, they think.
dont want to rain on your parade. please be cautious. thanks
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Listen to the Goose! LOL
No seriously, my XH did that and he still tries to work a "friend" thing so he can try and excaltae it into an "us" thing. My XBF does the same thing (BTW, left XH 2 yrs ago, so the XBF was this yr, not overlappping!!! eek!) but yeah the XBF does it too, starts a convo with something inane and then tries to get it escalated, BUT he's so screwed up and it never works on his side and at this point I am not willing to just "go back" to him so I don't let it just fall back into the same thing.......ok to make a short story long, just be careful, your STBX may be just missing the things you all shared and being fooled by this into thinking that he made a mistake (not to say that you aren't a great person!:) ) but he may just be lonely and missing the relationship, it sounds that way in that he didn't contact you for a while and then it was to just chat and see what was going on in life in general, but, well, I don't know what you really want, so just play it safe and don't assume anything or let your heart get hurt:)
We are here for you though, in any case <hugs>
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