Re: Someone come put me out of my pain manda: I'm so sorry you are having a bad day Falcon. She is hurting you guys so much.
Why was your son waiting up to meet the BF?
(maybe I am confused, no one else asked...)
Boys with mothers who date around a LOT... Anyone else ever read the research about this? I had to for a class years ago. It's not good.
I'm worried about your son. He is at a vulnerable time in his life and she is acting this way. I know he is technically an adult, but he's young and trying to find his way in the world.
I agree with goose tape man (as funny as that sounds--hee hee) that she is pouring salt in your wounds. As Dr. Phil would say, she is getting something out of that or she wouldn't do it.
See if you can remove whatever she is getting out of it.
(easier said than done, I know)
Re: Someone come put me out of my pain Falcon554: I just dont understand it at all, and maybe my son was waiting up to kick his ass :) She did sound very sorry on the phone but how someone who says they loved you for 21 years just keeps kicking me in the balls ill never know.
Hell they havnt even dated yet its just a guy she is screwing. I get so angry and just breakdown, today has been horrible. I just want to die sometimes, then all this shit would be over and no one would have to deal with my sorry ass again.
Re: Someone come put me out of my pain Trying2Hope: Don't talk like that, dude.
Here's the deal ... You are f-cking better than that. If she keeps kicking you when you're down, GET the F-CK UP and FIGHT BACK for your sanity.
I'm not saying try and hurt her, but what I am saying is say to hell with her and don't let her kick you in the balls anymore. She has issues!
I know it's hard, because I've been there. Believe me, I've been there.
I've found that a little anger goes a long way in fending off the victim mentality.
Raise one big middle finger in the air and say SCREW YOU BITCH!!!
Then go run three miles or punch the hell out of your couch or throw three dozen eggs against a tree (works for me!).
GET MAD and the TESTICLES she's trying to RIP OFF will grow LARGER and transfigure into IRON!!!!!!!
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRrrrrrrrrrrrGGGG!!!!!
(deep breaths)
Okay. Just hate to see the same shit happen to so many men ...
Re: Someone come put me out of my pain Falcon554: Wish I had the stregnth to do that I just dont. In May I thought I had colon cancer (I did not) then I get hit with the I want a seperation the a week later with the affair and since then its been a rollercoster of guys fucking her, her asking for time, her using me, I just dont have it in me anymore to stand up to anyone.
All my selfworth has gone out the door, I feel like a pile of shit, and I dont think it will ever get better. I stuggle day to day just to work and that is suffering alot right now.
i really am close to just loosing my will to do anything. If this has happend a year ago I would of told her to F off and die. But the last 6 months before all of this I fell back in love with her and then I thought I was going to die. I have nothing left anymore, no more fight no more will. Ill just walk thru life as a zombie I guess. She can use me as much as she wants to atleast she still wants to use me, more then I can say for anyone else.
Re: Someone come put me out of my pain manda: You know, I think you have to get to this point before you can rise up and take back over your life. Keep that in mind. I've learned that from reading posts on here. Just keep that in perspective. Don't ignore the pain, go ahead and feel it, but just make sure your brain is saying, "hey, this is the worst part and the better parts are coming."
Unfortunately in your situation, your stbx is not in a position to parent well, so you are needed. You will be playing the part of dad and mom for a while until her selfish stage is over, so hang in there.
