Want me or Not? Melmoss: just needed to vent about my frustration with my "husband" , we have been separated for a month now.. we have sold our home and are now both getting our own apartments. He says he still wants contact with me and usually asks me to dinner once a week. says he still loves me but it not "in love" with me. I didn't want this breakup but he felt it was best after I found out he had an affair. He says "you never know, we may work things out". well, I don't understand what his position is here, why should we have to sell the damn house and live apart if we "might" work something out. I feel like he is just jerking my chain here!! anyways, thanks for listening.. I am trying to move on with myself.. it is just so HARD!!
Re: Want me or Not? Falcon554: God I got that to for months. You never know what the future hold. Well no shit. What my wife got and still has is me anytime she needs me and the guy she is seeing now they get the best of both worlds. And im so damn stupid I feel im not worth anything else.
Re: Want me or Not? manda: [quote author=Melmoss link=topic=21552.msg201591#msg201591 date=1131834362"> He says he still wants contact with me and usually asks me to dinner once a week. says he still loves me but it not "in love" with me. I didn't want this breakup but he felt it was best after I found out he had an affair. [size=13pt"> He says "you never know, we may work things out". well, I don't understand what his position is here, why should we have to sell the damn house and live apart if we "might" work something out.[/size"> I feel like he is just jerking my chain here!!
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AAAHHHHHH, THIS is what is going on with me! Exactly! Our "husbands" need to find each other, go out, and talk, because they have tons in common. HEY, did yours just turn 40 by any chance? Oh well, it doesn't matter, they're everywhere, these stupid people!
Re: Want me or Not? jadedangel: [color=navy"> Well my opinion is he is just jerking your chain. Sorry. I don't think he is intentionally trying to hurt you -- however, I do think he is trying to keep you in the background in case some great opportunity doesn't come up. Sorta like a back up plan --- He is making some pretty definative actions -- by selling the house and having an affair.
If he loved you at all --- he would spare you feelings right? He would of actually cared. That doesn't take 'being in love' ... that is just respect given to someone we truly care about.
Re: Want me or Not? hrt_bkn_2005: I have some of the same problems. Though my husband and I have only been separated for 10 days this time....(another story) he doesn't know what he wants. Yeah, right. He had a wife that loved him unconditionally for the last 6 1/2 years, 2 children who adore him, a home, a truck to drive, my income is almost 2 1/2 times what he makes so he didn't have to worry about money too much, but he STILL cheated on me and says at times he is willing to try to work through this but he needs time. He is living out of his truck-starving-and yet he still doesn't know what he wants? I get the feeling he hasn't said "divorce me" because he might just need me sometime and want to come back to a real home and have his family and life back. It's awful to feel that you might be just being strung along.
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