just my opinion Bree: I think what they are doing is just keeping their options open! In case something better doesn't come along or happen, they know we love them and will be the faithful people we are and be there. Hopefully, I'm wrong and they are sincere, I just don't have that much faith after my own situation.
Re: Want me or Not? ga_sunshyne: OMG>>>>>>>>>>>And I just thought it was my XH who did these things!!!!
Melmoss- My XH did pretty much the same thing...I think he just wanted to leave the door open "just in case" and still actually tries to do just that. He gets totally furious if he hears that i am even in the same room with a guy that might show me some interest. I know it's hard...but once he sees u trying to move on then maybe he'll drop it. Mine did not and still has not, but I figure sooner or later he'll get the big picture.
Falcon554-If u weren't a guy, I'd swear u had my XH!!! He played the same games with me....lives with the OW but darkened my doorstep whenever he felt like he needed a shoulder to cry on (or a Booty Call :o)
Don't let her have the best of both worlds....U take the best (that would be U) away from her and see how she fairs then. know it's hard, but don't let her make u feel stupid, ure not, u just love her and want what u had. And u are going to be worth everything to someone else someday. Ure advice here has been worth lots to me and others!!!!
Jaded & Bree---AMEN LADIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sunshyne
Re: Want me or Not? lilly10: Melmoss,
I think that what happens is that they dont know what they want so they say these things to leave you on the back burner!! So damn frustrating! Yeah and if things were going to work out why would you of sold the house? He seems to be playing some mind games not sure that he means to but he is.
Re: Want me or Not? Lumpy: [quote author=random link=topic=21552.msg201626#msg201626 date=1131843465">
AAAHHHHHH, THIS is what is going on with me! Exactly! Our "husbands" need to find each other, go out, and talk, because they have tons in common. HEY, did yours just turn 40 by any chance? Oh well, it doesn't matter, they're everywhere, these stupid people!
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What they "need" is to have their back-up plans pulled out from under them. Don't play his game Melmoss. That's exactly what this is to him. Either you love me or you don't. That doesn't include a "timeout" for him to test the waters with someone else while you're left in limbo. As long as you continue to go out to dinner with him and play nicey-nice, he will string you along. Don't be his plan b! I'm not a big fan of ultimatums but you have to draw the line somewhere. Don't allow him to destroy your self-esteem. You're worth more than this. I really like how JA summed things up. My ex pulled the same game with me. It goes beyond "love" and how they decide to define it. This is about respect and consideration. If they show none, give them none. Protect yourself.
Re: Want me or Not? ga_sunshyne: oh Lumpy!!! Ure my hero....everything I have been able to say to my XH but I always get so frustrated when the time comes that I can;t even get my thoughts and words in order for it to come out that way.
Mind if I plaguerize(sp)????????
Sunshyne
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