Re: Those who have been cheated on... IlliniGirl: I suspected that he was cheating about 4 months before he told me. He just started being very distant.....no emotion toward me at all. Wouldn't kiss me good morning or good-bye, sex was out of the question, noticed his "work hours" getting longer.
He told me about the affair while we were on vacation in FL. Wanted me to let her move in with us. I told him to piss off, that I was leaving. He hit me, and knocked me out cold. Nice guy huh?
IG
Re: Those who have been cheated on... hrt_bkn_2005: I didn't have any signs really. Everything seemed normal to me until I forbid him to go to another women's house he worked around without me to "cut wood". He then got mad and stewed all night and decided to leave me the next day. He came back the next morning though. Then again about 1 week later he started drinking heavily, sitting outside in his truck and stopped bringing his cell in the house. I confronted him and he lied and lied and left for 9 days. He came back after I begged him to come back and stayed for another 9 or 10 days. I had a "gut feeling" something wasn't right still, even though I felt a renewed love for him and we acted like young lovers the entire time. He finally confessed he had been having an affair for about 4 months, but it wasn't serious....not a relationship...didn't plan for it to happen....anyway I went hysterical and he left so me and the 2 kids could stay at the house. But for the entire 4 months I had NO SIGNS in my view....guess I missed them.
Re: Those who have been cheated on... Falcon554: [quote author=IlliniGirl link=topic=21553.msg202005#msg202005 date=1131939573">
I suspected that he was cheating about 4 months before he told me. He just started being very distant.....no emotion toward me at all. Wouldn't kiss me good morning or good-bye, sex was out of the question, noticed his "work hours" getting longer.
He told me about the affair while we were on vacation in FL. Wanted me to let her move in with us. I told him to piss off, that I was leaving. He hit me, and knocked me out cold. Nice guy huh?
IG
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OMG!! thats horrible. He wanted her to move in? what a dumb F
Re: Those who have been cheated on... tallgirl: laugh.. wow, where do i start?? okay signs first :
1) started clearing his txt msg boxes on his way home from work ... caught one she sent after he got home that he didnt clear, it was blinking so i assumed it was his buddy wanting to go meet at the gym. boy was i in for an eyeopener... i thought only guys talked that nasty...
2) for a guy that never thought much about fitness he sure developed an obsession with going to the gym 6 days a week. caught him looking at himself in the mirror constantly. still does by the way... laugh.
3) huge increase in porno collection on the computer... developed into an addiction that he denied denied denied. still lies to me about it even though he finally fessed up honestly to a bunch of stuff, he backslides and starts lying about stuff he knows i already know about. what an idiot. check out my post about gay porno... oh yes, that too...
4) spends way too much time putting in overtime at work. yes, both the bitches were coworkers. i could have dealt w/ the first one, she was recently divorced & horney and he was 15 yrs younger than her. the current one just plain pisses me off. she's married, has been for 13 yrs, had the nerve to invite him to her husbands birthday party which my husband brought me to and then they both spent the evening glued to eachother's hips while i sat there stewing in disbelief and left completely ignored. then they both had the audacity to tell me i was crazy and nothing was going on between them and that i was in no way ignored at that party. wtf. sure make a lot of cell phn clls to eachother at 3am for nothing to be going on. bitch.
as for what i did to confront him and how i handled it... the first time i just brought his phn to him and asked him what is this and wtf is going on? he couldnt exactly deny it with her very vulgar txt right in front of his face... but he did anyways... said they were just friends that flirted at work. well your cell is not at work honey, and you are MARRIED or hadnt you forgotten that. then he blamed me, said i wasnt making enough money and he was resenting me for it and if i wld just start workng more and making more he wldnt hv to look for relationships outside of us. i told him to end it w/ her, go to therapy w/ me, or get the fck out. we wnt to therapy (in feb 2005) i thought it ws wrkng pretty well, we got along great, the sex ws great.. then i ws really happy whn he ws trnsfrd to a diff store. then of course he starts up a new affair w/ a DIFF girl at the new store, this time she's married, the first ws recntly divorced. managed to hide it from me for 3 months, which is an accomplishment considering i'm already paranoid from just going thru this recently and ws looking for tht kind of stuff. actually met the btch whn i had lunch w/ him at work, from second number one i really didnt like her, got a BAD VIBE especially the way she looked at him right in front of me... tld him later that day my impression of her and he blew me off. then the whole hsbnds bday party ditch the wife of your lover stuff just sent me over the edge. that time i got him home.. oh yeah she was getting him drunk by making drinks and sharing them with him... all the while right in front of his wife (me). so anyways, we got home, and i grabbed an overnight bag and went to a friends house. he actually got pissed at me, told me i was crazy & making shit up, and that he cldnt argue with me corrctly becz he ws too drunk. laugh, yes he actually said that. dont know if any of that was a good way to handle it but at least i didnt kill either of them or get any of them fired from their jobs. i can just imagine what the store managers would do w/ a nice little email from me punctuated w/ cell phn bill attatchmnts and photographs of txt msgs (i used to wrk for the cell company tht we have our service thru so i was able to recover and print out every single fckng txt tht he snt or recieved. stupid stupid stupid.) i can guarantee that they would all be fired on the spot. but i need his income to pay the mortgage until the house sells so i just dont do anything... but i know its only a matter of time until he's got a fling w/ a chick at the new store he's at...and he wonders why he gets trnsfrd so much.... dork.
Re: Those who have been cheated on... skoobz: working late. unaswered calls.
i checked the credit card reciepts. says lacoste (she doesn't wear that brand) purchase on monday, at 1910. yet, that day, she said she was working late, till 8.
installed spyware on her pc. she went to cingular text site. we have sprint. checked phone bill. she calls 2 numbers regularly, for 2 hours or more. checked her email. love letters. check her voicemail. he leaves her love messages.
i'm blindly in love, but even i can see that she's a fuckin' whore.
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