Re: my saga Falcon554: Same thing her, married my wife when she was 18 and now she is nuts. She likes being independent now, and i understand that. She still cares for me I know it and feel it but she is a lost soul now and hell so am I. Let her go and hope she comes back, you cant control her and boy have i had to learn that.
we were married 19 years together for 21, its all now gone.
Good luck man.
Re: my saga Frazzled Nomad: i can't do this. how do you decide? how the hell can i decide? one minute i want her back with every fibre of my being, the next i don't, the next i am prepared to do anything to get her back, then i think 'nothing will be enough', then i think 'i need to move on' and then i think 'i can't imagine a future without her'. for the last few years i have wanted to get out and now i am out and i want to get back in. my resentment of the state of our relationship masked just how much i love her. how the hell are you supposed to make a decision? how are you supposed to move on? no counsellor can give me the answer to this. there is no 'how do i feel deep down'. how i feel deep down is completely smashed and changes from minute to minute.
i want to go on meds but i am scared this will just mask the pain and i will be even worse in the long run.
what am i supposed to do. i have no life to go on with. my whole life is her.
Re: my saga Frazzled Nomad: ok so i have kind of decided i want to go to counselling together. i don't know if i want to make it work or not all i know is my feelings are so strong it's driving me crazy. i am worried that she is moving on and seeing other people and it's all over. i'm not supposed to contact her. i'm scared of mixed messages, my GOD i have sent so many over the last few months. but for the sake of both of us i want to get some closure on this one way or the other and sort things out with a professional. i don't want to move on.
how do i suggest counselling? should i do it now before any more time goes by? we won't be able to go to counselling for another month anyways.
has counselling worked for anyone?
am i just in complete denial / crazy?
