Re: Advice needed Gabo: This is just my opinion but I'll say it. First of all I think that you should follow the advices posted here and keep going in your independent life. It's hard, I've been broken hearted for a month and still can not handle it but I reckon that with time it'll be possible.
Second: This is just my opinion so don't get exited or anything. I think that this thing with the OW will blow in his face. After time (months, maybe even some years) he'll realize that the grass wasn't greener on the other side (on the contrary he'll appreciate how good you where with him) and feel sorry and will try to go back. Maybe this will never happen but usually this impulsive and denial behaviour after long term relationships end this way. Why? Because people get excited with a new relationship after being stuck in onother for a big while. But then this leavers realize that the grass wasn't greener on the other side, on the contrary they have to cope with the same old problems of a couple but usually with more disadvantages now and will miss the old days when everything was happy.
I may not be right of course. The best thing you can do is start your new independent life. Slowly (really slowly) you'll feel better.
Re: Advice needed Bryna: Thank you everyone for you replies. I'm having a really hard time today :'( I can't seem to stop crying. I know I need to start living my life, do things for me, but at the same time I can't get the thoughts out of my head that he left me for her because she was better. She is someone he has known a lot longer, from talking to his friends about her they said that he has always had feelings for her and she had them for him as well but they went in different directions and she ended up getting married to someone else, and now recently divorced.
Up until a month ago I spent every day talking to my ex, if for some reason one day had passed and we never he would be sure to email me to say he missed me. The last time I heard his voice was Oct 25h, and it wasn't a friendly call. I'm just so heartbroken, I have little self esteem left, I can't eat, sleep, I try to get out of the house but it hasn't been doing me much good, I've distanced myself from family and friends because I don't want them to see me like this.
I can't not move where he is going, I made a commitment to go back to school and work on my career. Thats in Jan, no other school will take me until Sept of next year and if I wait I may end up putting it off for longer, and one good thing is he isn't moving until March as far as I know.
I honestly wish that she would end up hurting him, but everything tells me that he will end up staying with her. He had told me in the beginning that he had problems with getting close to someone, said that he would never be in the situation to get hurt, but over time he had fallen for me, he had a lot of feelings for me, now he has a lot for her, so I feel like I helped her out by getting him to face his issues with his feelings....
Sorry, kinda venting here, I'm really upset today. I really want him back to... thats pretty bad I know!
Thanks for listening everyone, I know I will be ok, takes time
