Re: Why do so many people hate being single? doug paul: All great points. I honestly never liked being married very much. I truly mean that. I felt as if I had to "fake it" quite a bit. I think it had a lot to do with the person I was with. She was very pretty, sweet to everyone, a great mother, never cheated... BUT, very hard on me. No one saw that side of it. That was the reason for my post. I just hope I don't come crashing down soon, because right now I'm truly real right now. Sometimes happy and sometimes sad, but all the time genuine...
Re: Why do so many people hate being single? Tarheel: [quote author=doug link=topic=21566.msg201886#msg201886 date=1131917209">
All great points. I honestly never liked being married very much. I truly mean that. I felt as if I had to "fake it" quite a bit. I think it had a lot to do with the person I was with. She was very pretty, sweet to everyone, a great mother, never cheated... BUT, very hard on me. No one saw that side of it.[/quote">
If you didn't like it and it was "hard on you," why were you married to begin with? That just sounds to me like the marriage was horrible, and that's not what marriage is supposed to be.
I'm not insane enough to say my wife was perfect, cause she wasn't, but we filled gaps. I had gaps, she had gaps, we filled each other's gaps. Now I'm sorry, but anybody here who says that single life is no different than married life is full of s***, and you know it. NOTHING in the world compares to the feeling of being loved by the YOU love.
Now as to why I HATE being single, it has NOTHING to do with being able to do what I wanna do when I wanna do it. If you can't really do that when you're married, well, then there's probably something wrong with the marriage anyway. I see Spectrum's point on that matter, but who says you can't improve yourself WHILE you're in a relationship?
Me personally, I liked being in a relationship. Maybe it's insecurity or something, but I cherished the thought of having somebody there, somebody who loved me, FOR me. And I liked the ability to reciprocate. I LOVED being a family. And when you put so much effort into something, only to have it ripped out from under you, it makes you cynical. Maybe that's immature or selfish or whatever, but that's exactly how I feel.
That and women in my age bracket are generally not compatible with me.
Re: Why do so many people hate being single? hudson: [quote author=Tarheel link=topic=21566.msg201937#msg201937 date=1131932640">
Me personally, I liked being in a relationship. Maybe it's insecurity or something, but I cherished the thought of having somebody there, somebody who loved me, FOR me. And I liked the ability to reciprocate. I LOVED being a family. And when you put so much effort into something, only to have it ripped out from under you, it makes you cynical. Maybe that's immature or selfish or whatever, but that's exactly how I feel.
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Well put tarheel, and I agree with you. I think so many divorcees forget what it was about marriage that they adored. I know I have, somewhat. I'm skeptical now. I don't want another divorce so i'm putting the idea of marriage out of mind for awhile. I'm putting the idea of a long-term relaitonship out of my mind.
So I guess on what makes us different is, you continue to keep the idea of marriage in the forefront of your consciousness while I have put it to sleep for awhile. I'm entertaining the idea that perhaps being single can be a truly fullfilling lifestyle if it's embraced.
Still though, I really like what you said and it does bring back memories about the good times and what it felt like to be married.
Re: Why do so many people hate being single? PnR: I don't mind being single but I am tired of it. I was single for a long time before my ex (besides a couple of not so serious boyfriends). I've experienced the single life and partying and so on but I am really a homely person. I enjoyed having someone to come home to everyday.
Also at my age most of my friends are married or in serious relationships so it has become very lonely. There is also so much pressure to buy a house etc, but all of that is so much more difficult when you are single.
Re: Why do so many people hate being single? Discarded: I like being married, I like coming home to someone. I like sharing dinner, lunch, breakfast or whatever with someone. I like planning days out with someone.
I like sharing my life with someone and sharing in their life.
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