Re: Married people are mean.... manda: Excellent points here:
Why is it that we don't use the same manners we use with others to our family?
Re: Married people are mean.... Trying2Hope: It's called intimacy! When we let our guard down around someone else, we show our true colors. Most of our true colors aren't that pretty.
Also, I just thought of another benefit of being with someone. You get to team up and blame everyone else for your problems. Ever notice this? When you're married you can complain and someone will back you up. When you're single, it's just you so you have to take responsibility and look at the truth.
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Wow, this thread is making me feel better. :D
Re: Married people are mean.... doug paul: great point sheyd... I completely agree. I don't feel marriage is about walking on eggshells. I feel it should be a situatuion where two people are there for one another to support them and be there no matter what.
I have just seen it far to often where the guy is lying to his wife about something so trivial just to avoid a fight. The guy is completely wrong for lying, but I think most do it to avoid a negative response from the wife. I'm not defending the man here in any way, I just know this is why all of my married (guy) freinds lie to their wives ALL of the time.
Re: Married people are mean.... Tarheel: Gee, this place is GUSHING with negativity today. Can anybody here look back on their marriages and see what was GOOD about them?
I don't know what kind of twisted relationships ya'll were in, but mine didn't get that way until my wife started running around with her dishwasher boyfriend. I didn't do anything to cause it - I did EVERYTHING to try to save it, but that's not the point.
My point is while I know everyone here is jaded to the idea of marriage... as we've seen the bottom of the barrel regarding that... but are we all to the point where we're all swearing off marriage for good? I'm not. I'll find somebody ou there that's meant FOR ME. And when I do, I'm not gonna spend my life arguing with her over petty s*** like ya'll are talking about here. I'll be too busy enjoying being loved, and loving back.
I wasn't mean when I was married, but I know damn well I can be VERY mean now that I'm single. Ask my ex-wife.
Re: Married people are mean.... sheydp: That to me IS a good part of marriage - a safe haven! It isn't about being mean - it is about human nature. Did you spend your entire marriage all lovey sweethearty? What about when you were sick? Or had a bad day? We can't be on our best behaviour 100% of the time - it isn't possible. Real love isn't about continual romance - in fact - those that believe that tend to get divorced when the day to day business of life dulls the romance and they go looking for the next high!
I am not saying it is ok to rag on those we love - but we DO. Doesn't turn that into less love. Not at all. So lets look at WHY. Our kids blow up at us, and us them, because we are safe and will continue to love and feel love.
I am not jaded to marriage. I hope to be married again some day - and for the rest of my life. I hope to have romance and sweet love and appreciation... AND I hope to have a partner that is willing to work with me and accept each other with me through the rough spots and rough days. Someone who will bitch at me, I will love them through it - and they will also apologize, and do their best to modify tone during bitchy phase. But not try to hide their nasty side from me. I want to share ALL there is of their life. Someday.
Shey
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