Re: She's acting flirty and nice! WTF Falcon554: [quote author=Raul link=topic=21572.msg202017#msg202017 date=1131940544">
harmonix,
I called my STBXW for lunch- out not seeing her for a while- and she said okay in a nice, sweet voice- and when I got there she told me that I ruin her appetite by just looking at me. And she started putting me down- even told mt to get the **ck out of her face- after 10 minutes talking to her. And this is not the first. A friend told me that she gets empowered by making you feel like you're worthless- making her feel like she is better than you. She has called me to see what I was doing- if I was okay (I honestly thought she missed me). Then when I call her that same day- later, she'll say- that I am harrassing her. I don't understand her. But I realize that I should just leave her alone. And I have. Even, when I miss the old her- not the new one. She changed. She has me hanging on a thread and she knows it. So becareful. I was so happy when she said yes to meeting me for lunch- and I felt so hurt when she got in her car and left me standing there with my mouth open.
Raul
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what a bitch!!
Re: She's acting flirty and nice! WTF harmonix321: Wow, I'm so sorry to hear what's happened to you all!! I'll definitely try and be careful... my wife amped it up a notch though. She wrote me an IM today saying, "I kinda miss you too. You're still the 'other' in my dreams. It's weird. I've been remembering the happy times we had together and the things I liked about you."
When I said... "wow, I don't know what to say," she told me not to take it the wrong way and not to get any false hopes. Unfortunately, the obvious question is... just what the hell is the wrong way to take that and what are the false hopes? Unfortunately that's not something I can just ask her. I still want her back, and this just seems to confirm that it IS possible, if I play my cards right. I mean, it's a pretty damn big deal that she still misses me and not only that, she DREAMS about me!! Am I right in that? Comments?
My current plan is to continue the course of the last few weeks. Play it cool, don't show her weakness, and play up the qualities she likes in me.
Re: She's acting flirty and nice! WTF ajw: You have to stop thinking "if you play your cards right" and if you change she will come back....your not the one who needs to play their cards right to make this relationship work,she is!
Next time she sends a message like that...dont respond.....she knows where you are,let her come and do it face-to face......its like dangling a bit of string in front of a cats face....she wants you to play with it....she wants you to respond...she wants to know that she still has you to validate herself....each time you respond your feeding the monster rather than slaying it
Andy
Re: She's acting flirty and nice! WTF harmonix321: That's sreally good advice ajw. Thanks. I'll try and do that.
Re: She's acting flirty and nice! WTF harmonix321: [quote author=ajw link=topic=21572.msg202046#msg202046 date=1131947319">
You have to stop thinking "if you play your cards right" and if you change she will come back....your not the one who needs to play their cards right to make this relationship work,she is!
Next time she sends a message like that...dont respond.....she knows where you are,let her come and do it face-to face......its like dangling a bit of string in front of a cats face....she wants you to play with it....she wants you to respond...she wants to know that she still has you to validate herself....each time you respond your feeding the monster rather than slaying it
Andy
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At least all I said was "wow... I don't know what to say." I didn't gush or anything. I could have left off the "wow," I guess. But not responding at all is kind of petty, I think, and shows weakness too.
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