Why am I being with this immature behaviour!?? mwdguru: Okay, a week ago I am in Fort Worth having some good times trying to put everything behind me, it was thursday evening and I was about to go and have some really good times when I received a phone call from my
mother, she said that there was a letter from my STBX saying I owed her retro pay for temporary spousal support, and child support... I had gave her everything she had asked for during that time! On the envelope, it was addressed to me in care of Mama!! How tacky!! I drove immediately to my attorneys office 8 hours away!!!! I had a case of the red ass!!! My attorney stated I did not owe her anything, and to ignore her... To ignore everything from her except from the attorneys.. Please note that the letter had a statement on it: [s"> "As per say my Attorney!" [/s"> This was totally erroneous!
Yesterday, my mother received another letter from her which had a bill for my insurance which was sent to the house.. Please note I have filled out 2 change of address forms, as well as had the address changed bia the insurance companies computer... and it is still sent there, but anyway THE BILL was opened by the STBX!!! Inside the letter, there was a note stating that she could not afford to continue to buy stamps and that the mail was going to be thrown if it continues to be received there! If she would not have opened the shit, it could have been forwarded and not cost a cent!! She has also opened other mail prior to this, since the separation began!! She opened up 2 check stubs, which were accidentally sent there!!!! She also opened up some of my brothers mail which was sent there a year ago, while he was working close to me!!! She said it was an accident!! Is there anything I can do to make this insane behaviour come to a halt!!?? And also why would anyone engage in such ludicrous acts of immaturity!? Please note that she is 37 years old!!! I have tried to figure this insane behaviour out but to no avail!! Can ya'll help me out with the figuring!! And what can I do to stop these acts of bahaviour.. I am not responding to the letters, but should I seek legal action, because it is irritating!! Thank you for your time and input!!
Re: Why am I being with this immature behaviour!?? jadedangel: [color=navy"> Well, opinion is only that of ... 'she is grasping at straws'. She is being overtly nosy. She is trying to keep tabs on you .. hoping for something that she can use against you --- but that is only my simple opinion.
It still has your name on it and she is fully aware that she is opening your mail. I am pretty sure that it is illegal for her to be opening the mail addressed to you. I think you should contact your lawyer and find out if there is anything you can do.
Your right that is freakin annoying ... and the whole no stamp thing --- sorry but that is really pretty dumb of her.[/color">
Re: Why am I being with this immature behaviour!?? mwdguru: What is meant by the term, "Grasping for straws?" I am not familiar with this expression, help me out... And why in the hell would someone wanna keep tabs on someone when the person keeping the tabs is the one who filed for divorce!? Shit, what difference would it make, or does it make to her what I do!? This is ludicrous on her part!! Are these issues on her behalf normal behaviour for someone to exhibit during a divorce?!
As far as getting some dirt on me, this is impossible... I am gone way too much, and all over the state of Texas... When ever I have a chance to go out and have some good times, it is usually in a major metropoliton area such as DFW, Houston, or the Rio Grande Valley such as Progresso, Reynossa, Nuevo Laredo, etc... Shit, there is no way that anyone could follow me around for very long!!LOL and besides, we are separated, so what would it matter anyway!?? I just cannot figure out this behaviour... She is sooo full of lies!!!! She tried to say that the neighbors said I did this, did that etc.... She has tried to say I have done sooo many things when in fact it is not true!
Then there is the issue of my mother... My mother only bent over backwards for the STBX, by trying to help her in every which way possible! And my mother has never done anything to harm her whatsoever! However, now the STBX is lashing out at my mother as if she is absolutely full of hate and spite!! I am just baffled by all of this.. I consider myself a pretty logical ol dude, and always thought I was quite capable of figuring things out, but this behaviour/mentality that the STBX is displaying has me totally stumped!!! I am at wonder as to if she is about to run out of money... She is receiving 1500/month from me, but that is not as much as she was getting when we were together! So I am sure that she is possibly hurting financially, could this be the reason of the assanine behavour??
Then she asked me if I had put the baby a Barbie Jeep on Lay-a-way, and when I said yes, she asked if I was going to share it with her by transporting it house to house, or if I was going to be a jackass and mnake her buy one... I was nice and asked if she could get it in her trunk of her car, and if so that I would not have a problem with it..The next day I told her to go to the neighbors house and see if their jeep would fit in her trunk, when she said that she did not think so, then I told her it would be in her best interest if she went and put one on Lay-a-Way... Shit, if times are getting tight for you, swallow your pride and admit it!! Because after the decree is handed out, the will only get 1050.. and times are going to be much tighter on her!! I was wanting to work things out, but dealing with such childish behaviour makes me want to run like hell.. And brings back memories as to why we are in this situation to begin with!! Why oh why is such childish behaviour being displayed!? Has anyone here ever dealt with such insanity!?:???? I appreciate all input!! Thank you very much for your time and consideration..
