Was She Crazy Or Did She Really Feel That Way? timer: I'm reflecting on the breakup of my first post divorce relationship and the things my ex-gf said to me while we were dating that now seem "too much too soon or too good to be true".
After the third date, in which the girl and I talked from midnight until the sun came up, she said she felt like she could dance on rooftops. Three weeks after that, she said she loved me. Because I truly believed I felt the same way, I said it back. She also said that i was making her feel the way she always dreamed (swept off her feet etc.) Within 7 weeks into the relationship, she started planning our lives together and saying things like if this relationship continues to progress you will have to get your marriage annulled. Also, she would often say things like " I love you more today than i did yesterday."
Given how serious the relationship was I had her meet my kids and things went really well with them and her at first. However, one weekend my eldest daughter was in a bad mood and was rude to my then girlfriend. Well, within three days of this incident, and barely a week after she told me she would never leave me and that we were a team , she dumped me . She said that a long term relationship wasn't realistic because of my four kids.
It's been 7 weeks since the breakup and i am wondering whether the things she expressed to me aren't said that early in relationships (even in relationships that are sucessful and lead to marriage). What i am realizing is perhaps, she so wanted to feel this way, that she convinced herself of these feelings. It's really tough to think she wasn't sincere about her feelings because it really helped me to feel better about myself and optimistic about my post-divorce life.
Re: Was She Crazy Or Did She Really Feel That Way? hudson: Well, who knows if she truly meant all those things she said to you. She sounds a little nuts to me. I guess when it all boiled down to it, she just knew that she didnt' want a man with 4 kids.
Out of curiosity...
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Within 7 weeks into the relationship, she started planning our lives together and saying things like if this relationship continues to progress you will have to get your marriage annulled.
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so...you're not divorced yet?
Re: Was She Crazy Or Did She Really Feel That Way? timer: She was Catholic so simply being legally divorced apparently wasn't good enough in her Church if she wanted to marry a divorced person.
Technically i'm not offically divorced yet-matter of paperwork at this point Custody agreement is finalized and assett division remains. My STBX has been in a very serious relationship for five months now and there is no desire by eiither of us to reconcile. (I will probably jinx it by saying it but my wife and i are now having a happy divorce. In fact, my daughter told me tonight that she feels like a"normal divorced family". I think she meant that the parents get along and there isn't a lot of bickering and resentment.)
Re: Was She Crazy Or Did She Really Feel That Way? hudson: [quote author=timer link=topic=21596.msg202015#msg202015 date=1131940348">
She was Catholic
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Well no wonder she's crazy. ;D
Re: Was She Crazy Or Did She Really Feel That Way? Forsythia: Gah! Timer, I read your post yesterday and it sounds similar to what I just went through! I was seeing a wonderful fellow for 3 mos. On our 3rd date he insinuated he could see us being married. After dating for a month he said he loved me. By the 2nd month he kept calling me the love of his life, said we were soulmates, talked about marriage and kids, said I'd make a great mom, said he worried I would leave him soon cos it all seemed too good to be true, said "after we're married, I'm gonna tatoo your name on me" (ummm he didn't ask me to marry him), told me often that I was amazing & beautiful & etc, but my personal favorite: "you've ruined it for other women." ...So I fell for him and all he'd said and I truly thought he was the one for me. I was so happy! ... And he dumped me via email 3 mos after our 1st date. ??? So I hear you!! I don't know what to believe anymore! ???
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