Re: Was She Crazy Or Did She Really Feel That Way? timer: I'm coming to the conclusion that what she said was a mixture of infatuation, what she wanted to believe, and what she actually believed.
In the end, it doesn't matter: it's over and I need to accept it and continue to grow from it. I'm working on getting stronger so I don't need to rely so heavily on another person's approval, love, affection.
I'm starting to realize that what I believe and how I feel about myself is far more important than what someone else believes and feels about me.
Re: Was She Crazy Or Did She Really Feel That Way? techick: Sounds to me like whether she had those feelings for you or not, she couldn't deal with the kid thing:(
When I was dating, I almost exclusively dated people with kids (I have 3) but then that also is a problem for those of us with more then 1 or 2 kids, becuase when you start to date people with kids...well it's the Brady Bunch and although I love kids, financially, it's never realistic:( I dated a guy last year with 3 kids in the same ages as mine, everything was fine BUT we never would have been able to support 6 kids, financially:(:(:( Emotionally and physically we did great, I mean all 8 of us together, day to day things and ups and downs, but the finances slaughered us. In any case, just be careful when dating someone who has no kids, even IF they are the BEST aunt/uncle in the world and have the trophies to prove it! YOU know that it's a commitment and a way of life, kids, and you need someone who can fit into that smoothly and willingly.
My thought on it:)
Re: Was She Crazy Or Did She Really Feel That Way? Discarded: Yeah, I have 3 kids and my wife has 2. When I started dating post divorce I knew it would be best to date someone that has children. I didn't limit my field that way, but I realized that it would most likely work better. Only someone that has children really knows what they are undertaking dating/seeing someone who has children.
Someone who does not have children just don't know what they are getting into dating/seeing someone who does have children. If the relationship progresses into marriage someone who has children has a realistic view of what they are getting involved with, especially when talking more than one child.
I am pretty fortunate that I can financially afford 5 children, although it would be very tight if my wife did not work also. She also has a pretty good job so we do pretty well.
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Re: Was She Crazy Or Did She Really Feel That Way? techick: Yes, that and you wonder if they are ever going to want children of their own, even if they don't now. It's a lot of things, it really is, NOT that it won't work, but it's.....jsut things to consider, aren't there always though? LOL:)
Re: Was She Crazy Or Did She Really Feel That Way? timer: Good points from all of you. Thanks. The kids were definitely a huge factor. (During our breakup, she did say if I didn't have four kids she would marry me the next day).
I'm having a hard time thinking that after being so close and saying the things we did, that I will likely never talk to or see this person again except in passing. Although right after the breakup she said we would be "forever friends" and she "would love me always", she apparently wants no communication except if I see her at a public place (which I have) we will exchange a hello and maybe a brief catch up. After the breakup, I didn't call or e-mail her except to include her in my mass e-mail asking for addresses so I could send friends and family my first post divorce holiday card. She hasn't responded. If we truly are incompatible as lovers we can at least be friends. I guess she's concerned that if she opens any line of communication I will seize on it as an opportunity to resucitate the relationship. Frankly, i know she's not right for me as a mate but a friend who i talk to occassionaly would be nice.
