Re: Six months and maybe some wisdom

Re: Six months and maybe some wisdom YellowJacket: Not to keep hitting the same point but -- your last post is on the wrong board. It should be on "Something wonderful happened today" :)
Re: Six months and maybe some wisdom Lumpy: [quote author=YellowJacket link=topic=21601.msg203481#msg203481 date=1132418846">

An inch? Are you kidding?!?!?! The realization that you're lonely and not lonely for him is huge!!!!! It's miles..... many of them.... hardly an inch.

The day I realized I was lonely for someone but not for her was the day I was able to put it all behind me. It was that day and a moment of clarity when I realized I'd just get a few things tied up and would demand a divorce. I was free that day; you are today.

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You geeky engineer types seem to have a way with words. I couldn't agree more strongly with YJ. This may seem like a small step right now, but believe me it's huge. The paragraph you wrote about realizing what a jerk he's become is huge also. I think you'll find that point being hammered home time and time again when you have contact with him over the next few weeks. This is not the guy you fell in love with. As your perception of him changes this will get easier.

Re: Six months and maybe some wisdom teachinblues: Sounds to me like your recovering at the right rate for you.
what abut new music?
Its five months for me and new music is helping this last week.

Re: Six months and maybe some wisdom genesplicer: [quote author=YellowJacket link=topic=21601.msg203481#msg203481 date=1132418846">
Collect bonus points for an amazingly long run-on sentence![/quote">
Wow! That was priceless, YJ. :) Next time you need to give me the good material BEFORE I see him. :) He'd probably think I was being serious though. ::)

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It's miles..... many of them.... hardly an inch.[/quote">
Hmm... Doesn't really feel like that huge of a leap right now. Hopefully it will settle in even more over the next few days. :) Either that or you're just an exaggerator. :P

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No more him, no more "we". You'll take some time to adjust, to figure out what you want and to love yourself. Then you'll find someone new and life will be brighter than it's ever been[/quote">
This seems to be the key to unlocking whatever comes next. The absence of the 'we' tendencies at the subconscious level, and not needing it anymore. Knowing that I've got it together enough to handle anything, with or without anyone else. Whatever that ends up being, it will be better. I'll be a better person for it. Maybe that should read I AM a better person for it. And will keep growing that way as I move forward.

Although I think I lost my sherpa for this trip a while ago. :) [Must keep laughing, learned that early on. ">

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As our geeky engineer joke goes -- that's one hell of a large value of one you got there, kiddo! :D[/quote">
Haha, damn straight! :)

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Do something different today to celebrate -- you know, like having a beer or two! ;D[/quote">
I might just take you up on that one, since it's such a leap! ;)

Lumpy - It does help that he's been hammering these points home. He surely isn't the same man I met so long ago. Tragic in some ways, but one thing I learned is that you can't change somebody once they've made up thier mind.

Thanks guys. :)

Re: Six months and maybe some wisdom Lumpy: [quote author=genesplicer link=topic=21601.msg203493#msg203493 date=1132422680">
He surely isn't the same man I met so long ago. Tragic in some ways, but one thing I learned is that you can't change somebody once they've made up thier mind.

Thanks guys. :)
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The thing is, it's mostly sad for him. He's losing the respect and admiration of someone who loves him. And whether he cops to it or not it's his own fault.

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