Alone for the Holidays... again :( Findingmyself: Hey people,
Well... Here I am again, for the second year in a row. Alone for the holidays. Last year was my ex-girlfriend went away to figure out what she wanted in her life from Thanksgiving on into most of December and Christmas. That relationship ended after she came back. This year my most recent ex-girlfriend betrays me by cheating on me. So I had to end that relationship. So on top of dealing with all of the emotions of breaking up, I get to spend what is normally a very depressing time for me to deal with anyways... alone. Yay! :( (excuse the sarcasm)
So I have a question for my fellow colleages in suffering. How do I find new healthy ways to socialize and meet new people?
You see, I have for many years now either relied on internet chat rooms for socializing in general, and meeting my past girlfriends. Or when in a relationship, I focus all of my energy on them and lose track of my friends. I realize neither, are neccesarily healthy behaviours. But I'm trying to correct this.
So now because of the ugliness my ex has created because of her choices, denials, and lies. I've had to recently force myself not to go into chat rooms let alone even log onto the instant messenger just to keep my no contact policy with her in force. I hate to say it, but I can probably count the number of my friends on one hand. And they can't always be there for me 24/7. I need another social outlet. A way to meet new friends. And I'm reluctant to try other internet chat rooms, as my trust is VERY burnt from ex. As I find myself observing that a large percentage of people in these chat rooms are not good people with good intentions. So what do I do? How can I meet new people, with healthy attitudes and personalities?
What have other people here done in this case?
Thanks for listening.
Re: Alone for the Holidays... again :( Jessy_Miami: Do you know a particular skill or task which might be of use for a non profit organization? try volunteer work, you'll find people there with big hearts. However, if you are NOT into doing things for free don't even try.. volunteer work requires commitment.
Re: Alone for the Holidays... again :( Findingmyself: Thank you for your post Jessy. I actually had a previous co-worker of my ex that called today because he was in town to see his sister and help out making thanksgiving dinner for the homeless. He was surprised about the news of my ex and I, as he hadn't seen us since early summer. But offered the idea that I could come down and help out. I couldn't do it as I don't feel well enough about myself at this point to give in that capacity. But thank you for the idea.
