Isn't It Better to Be Upfront and Honest about No Interest In LTR timer: I'm considering taking the plunge back into the dating scene and I'm hoping not to make the mistake I made last time about getting overcommitted early. I think I really need to learn how to casually see a lot of different people rather than settling on the first person who shows a lot of interest in me. I don't, however want to lead someone on. While I don't think I would tell someone on the first date that I don't want anything serious, I'm thinking of bringing it up after the third date or so.
Have others done this or what did you think when someone said this (or some version of it) to you?
Re: Isn't It Better to Be Upfront and Honest about No Interest In LTR fiona: I don't exactly say "LTR" but moreso, "I'm not looking for anything serious right now". Unfortunately while I think I'm being honest, the guys eat it up. You become a challenge. You're their dream girl. They try harder. You're more desirable. When they up the ante, and I feel like things are going too fast when they push (and I like them, but need to slow the pace down) I usually tell them, "sorry.. my life is too hectic right now". I actually had a guy tell me - "what?! too hectic from the millions of men you have chasing after you?!" Did put a smile to my face... I guess in some aspects you just can't win.
Re: Isn't It Better to Be Upfront and Honest about No Interest In LTR frontier74: If you want to keep it casual, don't see a guy more than once a week, maybe twice if it's a special occasion. Also, don't talk to him on the phone more than once or twice a week, and when you do, keep it short -- just long enough to exchange pleasantries and set up your next date.
The only way to keep it from turning into a relationship, is to not treat it like one.
