Mixed feelings from the ex??? malex1984: Hi,
Most of you may know my story from a few posts but i will fill you in. Both of us are are very young 21, been together for 5 years, lived together for 3 years, seperated now for nearly 3 months.
We have had very little contact over the last 3 months and i thought that she had started seeing someone else, havent really based it on alot. A few of my friends have seen her out with a guy but nothing too serious. Just recently we have started chatting again through email and the odd phone call, it was all pretty straight forward.
This week she called me one night and we went out to dinner and back to my house where we just sat around and talked and watched some TV then she left, after that there have been emails back and forth and she sent me a few sms messages to say that she really appreciated the time together and hopes we can do it more often. She also said she wants to have me in her life because we got along great together and although we have probably both said and done things in the last few months that the other person would like to forget she is sure we can put that behind us and work towards a future friendship.
Now i dont really know what to take from this, yes it is true we got along really well and alot of people thought we were the perfect match (obviously not) but she was the one who wanted to leave the relationship to go and live her life and be young.
I loved her unconditionally for all our time together and we were best friends. Do i keep trying to stay away from her and move on from what we had or do i keep talking to her and spending time and see what progresses from there??
I feel that i want to be friends with her at some stage, i dont know if we could ever be together if the opportunity presented due to the broken trust etc
Any Advice?
Re: Mixed feelings from the ex??? ajw: Well you know her better then any of us......but it does smack of her wanting to be your friend cause it helps her feel less guilty about the way she treated you.........do real friends lie to you....do real friends betray you?
Re: Mixed feelings from the ex??? malex1984: yeh i know exactly what you mean, she must feel guilty for the lies etc and might be trying to say lets forget about that and just move on, but we still need to handle everything that happened.
All well and good to say that we were a great team but whether she likes it or not, she broke up that team
Re: Mixed feelings from the ex??? Zephix: my stbx is doing the same things, she somedays are saying we are done forever, then others we hangout and flirt and kiss. She said she only sees us as friends, but cannot tell the future if we are going to be togeher or not. All I know is we have Joel together and the love is still there, so I am just going to take it day by day. She knows how i feel and we will see what happens.
