Re: How to smile again and feel ok about smiling? jadedangel: [quote author=hurtnlost link=topic=22038.msg205171#msg205171 date=1132922586">
How do you get to where you justify smiling again?
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[color=navy"> All I can say is something I have been told ...
Are you really going to let him win? Are you going to let him walk all over you and be right about making his choice to leave? Are you going to show him that you can't make it without him?
In that sense .... how can you justify not smiling again? [/color">
Re: How to smile again and feel ok about smiling? hurtnlost: mrlament - Thank you for your perspective on how they move on and what they feel. It was a good way of looking at it and I am sure I will eventually figure out how to do the same when it is time.
JadedAngel - What you said really does make me want to smile again and not let him win. When I see him I try to give peptalk myself and tell myself that he will eventually regret leaving me but I can see myself one day smiling again just not sure when that day will be.
Re: How to smile again and feel ok about smiling? jadedangel: [quote author=hurtnlost link=topic=22038.msg205399#msg205399 date=1132966164">
JadedAngel - What you said really does make me want to smile again and not let him win. When I see him I try to give peptalk myself and tell myself that he will eventually regret leaving me but I can see myself one day smiling again just not sure when that day will be.
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[color=navy"> I relate more than you know ..... but, I don't want him to know that.[/color">
Re: How to smile again and feel ok about smiling? mrlament: hurtandlost, you are verry verry welcome if ti helps. for all intensive purposes sometimes i feel like were the emotional-blind, leading the emotional-blind, if you get my meaning ;)-ive heard a lot of people say the best revenge is living well...i tried to present that front and it just didnt work for me, id rather deal with the hurt and pain("feel the burn") and when i'm over it, i guess i'll know. this frigin pain cant last froever...can it? ???-she lets me know in no uncertain terms life is just fine and she "laughs" all the time- like i said i'd rather mourn at my own pace and when i get over it, i'm not ashamed to let her know that being away from my children combined with her open cheating hasnt and still dose sting, if she gets off on that?...well then she dose. period. respect your feelings as i said (we all heal at our own pace), there the onlything that are truely yours. just my take.
all the best!
(sorry didnt mean to star a new thread, or hijack yours)
Re: How to smile again and feel ok about smiling? hurtnlost: mrlament - my ex has done the same thing to me, telling me that he never thinks or cares about what I do in my day to day life and he is getting along great and I hate that. I have thought that if I just put on a front too like I am so happy and doing great that maybe he would be real with me and let me know he is hurting somehow too or want me back and then I can be strong and say no I have moved on. I am trying my best to move on but it is so hard to when you have so much history together but I guess I have to. I do not think this pain can last forever though and I see a light at the end of the tunnel for everyone on here! But you are right it is better to mourn than to hold it all in, eventually I hope that my ex will feel sorry for leaving me when he see I have moved on.
