Re: So who see's there life in this article I pulled off the net whythisnow: Yup I'm a care-taker, co-dependent..... whatever.
I talked with a shrink after the break up about 1.5 yrs ago. (wow that looks older on the computer)
She told me to work on boundries with people. I was always there to help the ex, friends, family, neighbors, etc .... never had time from myself or do the things I like to do. She used the term care giver and taker.
So I worked on setting boundries and some people did not like it.
Then I sat down and had to come up with a list of what I wanted to do. (men's Journal had a bunch of guys top 100 list last year which helped)
YES - two girls are on every guys list even if they don't write it down or tell you. lol
Now, I try hard to live within my bounds and keep people I love and like within theirs. I try really hard to make my self happy and positive.
Two things that really help me are 1) working out and 2) meditation. I have taken the kids to family therapy but I do not enjoy it. At some point therapy becomes useless with the same therapist. Kinda like a coach that can no longer motivate a team to win.
I like the article and unfortunately, I think it is correct. I have spent the last year healing myself and taking care of the kids to get too serious with anyone else. Being a caretaker is so drilled into me I forget boundries when I see a pretty face.
Heal thyself,
FIDO
Re: So who see's there life in this article I pulled off the net MichaelMail: I enjoyed this article. But my question is HOW DO I DO THIS?
HOW DO I FIX MYSELF AND STOP LETTING OTHERS AFFECT MY EMOTIONS?
Is there a how to manual?
Re: So who see's there life in this article I pulled off the net techick: Yeah Melodie Beattie (something like that) and her co-dependent books:) Used those when i was in school to become a psychologist:)
