Re: They never change minneapolis: [quote author=Hopeless link=topic=22074.msg206000#msg206000 date=1133130960">
...but I find myself more angry and upset reading the posts from others...
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That's totally normal. I think we've all felt that, too. The deal with us at Ojar though is that we'll always be here. If you want to leave for a bit that's cool. But if you want to come back, we'll be here. Take care of yourself. You are not alone. Everything you're feeling is normal and part of the deal. Sometimes it helps to talk it out, even with people you don't know on an Internet site. Sometimes it doesn't. And you know when to make that call.
But like i said before, if you need us, we're here.
Re: They never change Sittingbear: Hopeless????????
More like Hopefulll to me
I like what you scribed there about living again...dusting oneself off and straightening ones appearance and living ...awesome ...
3 months....eh? interesting....Lets see how your doing in a year...perhaps you will see her as a friend...and not as an organ that you need in your life...
saying sorry all the time ...is a waste of a possible thank you...does this make sense *sittingbear scratches his head with paw..* mmmmm?????
I did that too...sorry for not being there
sorry for not listening
sorry for not sharing
sorry about the financial problems
sorry for my expressions of anger and frustration
blah blah blah
eventually that is what sorry is ....another blah blah blah
actions speak louder than sorry's....
that was my lesson..
I stoped myself from saying that stupid word and started to just
do things that I never did before...like build a garage and rocking chair..
I put all my energy in work and got the savings to take care of my daughter..and if there is ever an emergency then I am prepared...this is how I say sorry now...ACTION
sittingbear
to you guys....out there...you might of f**ked up in your relationship...saying sorry is telling her and confirming that you did
f**k up and you keep giving up your personal power to do something about it...come on guys..ACTION
sittingbear is now sitting on the highest limb in the tree...yelling
"ACTION >>>>ACTION"
Re: They never change Whirlpool: [quote author=Sittingbear link=topic=22074.msg206010#msg206010 date=1133131900">
Hopeless????????
More like Hopefulll to me
I like what you scribed there about living again...dusting oneself off and straightening ones appearance and living ...awesome ...
3 months....eh? interesting....Lets see how your doing in a year...perhaps you will see her as a friend...and not as an organ that you need in your life...
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Thank you for posting :) This is the type of thing I need to hear.
Re: They never change Falcon554: [quote author=Hopeless link=topic=22074.msg206000#msg206000 date=1133130960">
I would like to add, we have 2 kids together and logically it would seem worthwhile to try to make this work between us. No one will treat my children better than I will. She already knows that I love her and respect her, so thats a no brainer.
Due to the fact that she wont even try, leads me down the path of moving on. I cannot control her, nor will I try. She is on her own, all alone (I think).
This is my last post on this site, I wanted to thank everyone for there efforts to help me along this path, but I find myself more angry and upset reading the posts from others.
Thanks to all and good luck.
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Dont get angry. I understand how you feel, my wife will never find a better father then I. She knows that. Shes sounds like she is going thru something. It sounds like it has more to do with her then you. Same with my wife, its almost all her. I have to let her go thru it and ill be there to help her when she needs me. Not that I have any hopes we will ever get married again, but I will always have a relationship with her no matter what.
Maybe in a few months you can look at her as a friend as I do my wife now. People make mistakes, and forgivness is a great thing.
