What a tangled web we weave- confession crushedman: Another confession thread:
It all unraveled today.
The story-
XGF broke up with me. I was crushed. X Fiance was there for me. I started leaning on her. Had sex a few times. I didn't realize it then, but I was using her. She still loves me and wants me back. I still love her on some level but I don't want to marry her. Now I feel terrible.
Then I get back with XGF. I know that nothing will hurt X fiance more than this, so I tell her I moved to Maine! (huge mistake) She eventually finds out. I feel awful. I compound mistake Wednesday night, we (meaning me and Xfiance) go out and end up having sex. (gigantic mistake) Girlfriend suspected something happened (6th sense maybe).
Today she finds out the truth and actually talks to x fiance. GOD. What an idiot I am! i was planning on seeing Xfiance today to break off the relationship and give her the money I owe her. Too late. To say that both of these women are infuriated with me is an understatement. Now neither one of them believes a word I say... what else can I expect? Looks like I blew it. I'm sorry. God, please forgive me.
Re: What a tangled web we weave- confession lost enigma: hmmm have to ask,
Do you REALLY feel horrible?
I am not bitter, thank heavens i havent been cheated on. However, i thought i was being cheated on. I felt liek shit!
But are you upset you got caught and you have neither now?
Re: What a tangled web we weave- confession lilly10: Crushedman sorry to say but best bet would be to just move forward on your own. You have done quite bit of emotional damage to both these women. There is to much bagage now and relationships with baggage rarely work out. God will forgive you but I doubt your girlfriend will.
This is a live and learn moment.
Re: What a tangled web we weave- confession JerniganReturns: Looks like you're going to have quite some trouble lifting yourself out of the muck and mire. That is, if that's a possibility in this situation at all.
I don't know how forgiving or damaged these women are, but regardless: you're going to find it very difficult to repair what's been done.
The cornerstone of any relationship, I've learned from hard experience, is trust. Without trust, you have nowhere to go with these women.
If in your position, I would resist the temptation to concoct any more lies. Lies beget lies; the creation of one seemingly harmless lie necessitates the creation of another. It's a self-perpetuating process.
I'm not pointing a finger at you. All of us have lied before---anyone who tells you differently is---well, a liar. But these lies seem to have created one fine mess, one which may be better left behind with a lesson learned.
Re: What a tangled web we weave- confession crushedman: I feel absolutely HORRIBLE. But keep in mind, there is more to this story. We had agreed to be physically monogamous, and based on that what I did was DEPLORABLE. However, at one time she had cheated on me in a similar situation. Also, she is currently living at the house of the same XBF that she cheated on me with. I could go on and on and on, this story is so complicated with so much blame from both sides it's not even funny.
That being said, I hate to hurt another human being. I just wish she could see that she has hurt me just as bad in the past.
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