Getting desperate Gabo: Today I lost the last remnants of hope that she will ever realize how stupid she was for leaving me (trust me, she was stupid but needed a man right there and not in another city, how weak...)
Now I just know that the only way to keep moving is to find another woman, another woman who will be beautiful, intelligent and sweet.
The problem is... (I know, is only 2 months since break up) I am getting desperate. Desperate that i meet no one nice and single.
Desperate that the feeling that I'll be alone for the rest of my life is getting stronger and stronger.
Tired of being alone.
Any suggestions on how to feel less alone and desperate of meeting someone else? Really i feel like I am doomed to lonelyness.
Re: Getting desperate Tarheel: You don't NEED another one to move on. But the JOURNEY of looking for another one is the ultimate healing process.
Patience. Something I have little of myself, but that's the key. Some people will tell you that you have to let it come to you. Others will say you have to go get it. It's a fine line, one which you'll figure out after a while. And to further complicate matters, you will encounter LOTS of STUPID women before you meet a GOOD one. (There's a math equation there just WAITING for somebody to exploit, but I'm not gonna be the one to do it.)
Don't make finding a woman the end all, be all. When you do is when you get depressed about the whole matter. Just be easy going, do the things you wanna do, go out with YOUR friends, and she will eventually come... after you weed out the crap. And THEN you go after her.
For me, I've been looking for six months (single for more or less a year) and I've came across a wide array of women, some good but crazy, others just immature. And then, just like that, I bump into an old female acquaintance this week that has LOTS of potential. (I'll share that story later.)
Just go with the flow, and the flow will lead you to a woman. But there will be some rough water. So allow yourself to be distracted by things other than women.
Re: Getting desperate TaoChick: Your current lack of hope will also pass. She may not ever realize what she gave up, but the sting of that will eventually fade. To not recognize your value indicates that she's not worthy of you, that she never really saw YOU. Do you really want to be with someone who's incapable of recognizing you? Do you want to be with someone who "needed a man right there and not in another city"? From my perspective, you deserve more than that. You shouldn't have to settle or compromise (beyond a reasonable limit) to make a relationship work. She failed to recognize your value/worth ... you. That's her loss, not yours. At least that's how I see things.
Re: Getting desperate person: this is an interesting subject because its been over a year for me and the only time im 'over' my ex is when i have hope of someone else. sometimes i have someone in mind but hopes are quickly dashed.
is this going to continue because i honestly can tell you that i am absolutely convinced that there is noone out there for me anymore. and i do mean this.
im 25 and when there is no hope, theres the depression....
Re: Getting desperate Sittingbear: ohh so she is stupid eh? That is funny .... if I was in your shoes...and feeling desperate and lonely....chasing a person down to fill up my lonliness and put a temporary fix on my lonliness,,, would make me stupid....Why the hell , would I go out with my high selfish need and use another human being...playing them...this is stupid on my part...
Where are your friends dude? have you got any of them pleasantly plumb, smart, caring , sensitive , lady friends...you can hang with....?
now that is smart...being with a friend instead of using a woman.
first of all no one is alone...if you live on this planet called earth...then you are definitely not alone....yet you sound horny to me...ever hear of safe sex....also known as masterbation..?
hehehhe....sittingbear loves his younge days...hehehe
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