Reuniting with the high school sweetheart mophead123: So as things went sour in my relationship this year back in February I did what many people do and thought back on my last most successful long-term relationship then ended on a high note. For me that meant my girlfriend from high school who I continued to see in college. I sent her a mail back in March, a month before I ended it with my ex (we were separated at the time). Anyway, we have been chatting a bunch online, emials, and even a couple calls over the past 6 months. Its been awesome. We still definitely get along well and I feel like we still have chemistry.
So I am home for thankgiving this year. I decided to come back home. Hadn't seen her in 5 yrs and its been 8 yrs since we dated. Anyway, we met up on Thursday night. It was incredible. Nothing happened at all. We just talked. I have to say I was pretty nervous. Been awhile since Ive been that way with a woman. I know how much I have grown and changed in the last 8 yrs but yet for a moment I felt as if I was 18 again. The whole experience was so surreal. I have yet to ask her flat out if she has a bf but its clear she doesn't. She keeps going on about how she is so tired of dating.
It kinda seems like she is getting to that point where she may be looking back similar to the way I do though that conversation never came up. What did happen though was a ton of hand touching, holding etc...Im not sure what to make of it. It wasn't a date by any means..but at any rate the chemistry is still there.
The truth is I have never forgotten about this woman and have legitimately been around the world and yet havent found someone who has made me feel this way.
But the whole notion seems crazy. Truth is that I DO live in another country right now. She has gone back to her city yesterday. I told her I may swing by before my flight leaves the country to see her one more time. It'd be one thing if we were living in the same place...or had some time to spend together but is this just a bunch of hallucinations. The turth is we spend a mere 2 hrs together yet I havent been able to think about anything else since Thursday. Her birthday is tomorrow actually.
There is so much I want to do and say...ao much of me has that carpe diem like attitude but the reality is I havent seen her in 5 yrs and havent spent any significant time in 8...Could just be a mirage right???
Anyway...looking for advice here...Don't have any idea how to approach this without it coming off extremely heavy..If only I was back for longer...
Re: New beginnings with long time ex...??? hudson: Hey Mophead.
Hope you've had a great visit home.
I think it's really cool that you hooked up with this old girlfriend. It's obvious from what you've described that you two still have some feelings for each other. Maybe a little chemistry is still there too.
I would just continue your communication with her. See where it goes. Keep the emails and the occasional phone calls going. See how things progress. Maybe it will develope into something more, maybe it won't. But certainly dont' rush into anything(not that you could from the distance between the two of you).
Just remain cool, and let her know that you think about her.
ok, I think that's it.
Re: New beginnings with long time ex...??? ~Advice please~ mophead123: Any other takers?
Re: New beginnings with long time ex...??? ~Advice please~ jillieb44: Follow it and see where it leads? Maybe it was meant to be, maybe not. You'll only know if you try.
Jillie
Re: New beginnings with long time ex...??? ~Advice please~ toofast: mophead,
Coincidentally, I find myself in the same position, so I can't really offer advice but I can commiserate/hope with you.
My divorce was final earlier this month. I went out with an old group of friends over T'giving and my high school/college boyfriend was there. We live in different states and have seen each other probably about three times a year for the past several years, although we used to see each other a lot more. Long story short, he kissed me-- total butterflies, complete bliss, I was 16 again. :-)
I decided to email him and tell him honestly how I felt about it , that I wanted to see him again, but that I felt that the timing and distance were a little strange. He emailed me back and is apparently all for it, on my time table and with us both recognizing the issues that may come up. I want to go really slow. If we both see some potential here, there is no reason to screw it up by launching into it when we also both see the pitfalls.
I never never thought that I would even contemplate even a casual "relationship" this early. If some guy I had never met asked me out, I would have absolutely said no. But here it is.
I have to say, I personally think it can work. Part of me thinks I may be trying to go back to something that won't be there, but part of me thinks it may be just as wonderful as I expect. Part of me thinks there is no way I am ready. Part of me thinks that if it is meant to be, it will happen even if I give myself several more months of me-time. Part of me thinks things happen for a reason. I think that both of us knowing what is happening, and that seems to be the key to me.
I say "carpe diem"-- Good luck with it. I say go for it, and go slow. :-)
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