Re: New beginnings with long time ex...??? ~Advice please~ Greta: There's actually been some very positive research on this very topic:
http://www.lostlovers.com/research.htm
Dr. Kalish found that lost love reunions were common in all age groups. The average age of the participants was 35. Two thirds of the participants had reunited with their first loves from when they were 17 years old or younger. Their success rate for staying together was 78%. For the overall sample, the staying together rate was 72%. The full results for these 1001 participants are discussed in Kalish's book, along with reasons why thinking about lost lovers is common, and how these reunions are different from typical romances.
Re: New beginnings with long time ex...??? ~Advice please~ mophead123: So I did wind up going for it...I took her out to dinner and we wound up at her place...spent the night and friday with her. Then saw her again on saturday night and spent the night again. I didnt want things to move so fast. In reality the time I enjoyed the most was the time we spent just walking around, eating dinner out...etc...But she seemed insistent on living in the moment. There clearly is still something there after 8 yrs.
She did tell me that she is seeing someone though...kind of upset me especially after what I went through this year. I didn't want to be involved with that.
But she hasnt even gotten intimate with him or anyone in over a year she told me...which must mean something...The tough part is that I left the country once again yesterday and have no opportunity to follow up in the end. My work is here and it was just a visit.
It was a hard time because both of us felt the carpe diem idea but I think we rushed to get intimate as we didnt know when the next time we'd see each other. And both of us felt so comfotable on certain levels. Speaking honestly, the part I enjoyed the least was the intimate part as despite how well I knew her...the feelings weren't yet there to back it up as we were practically strangers to a certain degree.
Anyway, I hope doing that didn't cause inrecoverable harm. I wonder how to continue this without it getting weird. We left it as it would be good to be friends...I just haven' been able to stop thinking about her. This was my high school sweetheart...Still seems so surreal.
Any ideas?
Re: New beginnings with long time ex...??? ~Advice please~ mophead123: No love on this board huh?
Re: Reuniting with the high school sweetheart whatnext: Well, I read your earlier post, but I didn't have any good ideas. I think at this point you just have to deal with the discomfort and "see what happens". I wouldn't jump into an LDR, that's for sure... when is the next time you would see her?
You know, I think everybody still holds on to that hs sweetheart, so I totally get the surreality of your situation...
Re: Reuniting with the high school sweetheart frontier74: I agree with whatnext. Go on with your life, even date other people. If or when you end up living a little closer to her, you can try to get something started -- if your'e both still interested.
The situation you described above is a total dead-end, at least for the moment. So, don't get hung up on it.
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