Can someone explain this........ Pache253: ???
So, been dating a man for a good while now, you'd think I'd know him but oddly enough it's like being with Jekyl and Hyde. He has dumped me more than you could imagine but it last for no time at all, a day or two and then things are back to "normal." He's in his 40's, middle 40's, and acts like he's freaking two years old and when it comes to remembering anything I ever said it's like he keeps a log of it and will throw things up from over a year ago. Night before Thanksgiving he asked me to go to his company Christmas party and I told him I would. Everything was fine. He called to wake me up on Thanksgiving morning so I could drive to my moms and I didn't hear the phone (I'm on pain pills and muscle relaxers), and so he started in today saying I must have had someone here. Never have I given him a reason to think that. If we're not together we know where each other is. So today he starts blasting me through email about what a sorry person I am and for me to never email or call him again, I'm a low life, etc. I'm thinking he needs mental help but could it be he's got like a jealously problem or something? BTW, I'm done with him but am very curious as to what would make a person act like this. Not only the verbal abuse but the fact that he hates everyone, has no friends, cuts people don't all the time. Ugh.
Re: Can someone explain this........ hudson: [quote author=Pache253 link=topic=22095.msg205776#msg205776 date=1133065102">
I'm done with him but am very curious as to what would make a person act like this. Not only the verbal abuse but the fact that he hates everyone, has no friends, cuts people don't all the time. Ugh.
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The more pertanent question in my mind would be "what were you doing with a man like this?" After being dumped by him so many times, allowing him to treat you that way, and subjecting yourself to his abusive behavior, why did you continue to stay with him? Why didn't you see or heed the red flags?
I understand that you are through with him, but are you sure that you won't just go out and find a man of similar character, or even go back to him once more?
I'm not trying to be harsh or mean, but this is what came to mind when I read your post.
As to the question you asked, there are many factors that could've lent themselves to this mans behavior. To name a few...abusive parent/s, bad role models, etc. There are many things that could contribute to the low self esteem and abusive behavior that this guy exhibits.
My two cents.
Re: Can someone explain this........ Watergod: GIRRRLL...he sounds like a classic Borderline Personality Disorder. Lots of black and white thinking...lots of being negativity...LOTS of breaking up...acting like a 2 year old is part of it.
Been there....
You can't help him. He has to help himself!!
Do some google on it...you will be shocked.
Re: Can someone explain this........ Sittingbear: yep..he got issues...you Want them...then keep hangin with him..
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sittingbear
Re: Can someone explain this........ Pache253: I honestly think the only reason I put up with it for as long as I did was my own self esteem had gotten really low. Since I posted my message he has knocked my door in claiming he tried to get a hold of me for so long and was unable so he was worried that something had happened to me. Yeah, like I bought in to that. NOT. I know he's got problems and I did see that but kept thinking of the nice times, very few, but thought of them. I really do think it comes down to my own self esteem issue as to why I would ever allow anyone to talk to me or treat me the way I allowed him to.
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