Re: The No-Date Era changed4ever: Minneapolis, I just wanted to say that I read your post and that was me a few short months ago. My ex left me for someone else. Listen to me, it's his loss. There are so many men out there who would love to spend time with you and possibly could make you very happy. Don't let one bad apple spoil the rest of your life. I firmly believe that by letting yourself feel this way, your ex wins again. Don't let his actions reflect on you. My boyfriend said to me recently over dinner, "I just don't get it, how the hell could your husband ever let you go, he must be crazy". It goes back to the saying, one man's lost is another man's gain. The two of you weren't meant to be. Leave it at that, don't ever think "who would want me my husband didn't". You're better than that and you should know that there are men out there that will want you and appreciate you like your husband didn't. Your husband failed you, not the other way around. Good luck to you and keep your head up. Your day will come.
Re: The No-Date Era LostTeacher: these are all really good points.
i think i feel like M....was with my stbxh for so long, that i don't really know what to do. i don't know if i am ready to let someone else into my life like that, and risk getting hurt.
i hope that one day i can find that person...the one that realized that my stbhx's biggest mistake was their biggest gain!
LT
Re: The No-Date Era flyaway: Wow, some really great insights here. I have to say that I have made a decision very recently, that I need to impose a no-date era on myself. :)
I have come to the realization that I am in no way prepared, skilled, or tough enough to be a part of the dating scene. Because of the luggage left over from the demise of my marriage, and I think, even before my marriage, I am unable to recognize abnormal behavior, and put a stop to it.
In other words, I seem to be really good at picking "winners" to hang out with....either online or in the flesh. ::)
*adjusting nun's habit* So therefore, I have retired from the dating scene....and if I so much as hint at a crush in any of these threads....I expect a sound beating from anyone and everyone who notices here on Ojar! :D
Re: The No-Date Era Gabo: My ex fiance left after 6 years. 2 months later I am ready to date (my therapist says that I am definately ready to date, but I am not ready to get into anything serious) I guess I heal quickly. The problem is... haven't find anyone that is worth for a date. I maybe picky but I haven't met anyone that I woud like to date. I'm handsome, confident and a good partner yet still no one has cought my attention yet.
Re: The No-Date Era OS: trying2hope,
I had some bites at the beginning, but just took a bunch of time to let the fog clear. My game wasn't impressive and the other gender knew it. I was just not myself in the dating world for a long time and it took me about a year to feel comfortable enough to try my hand at it. It was ugly at first, but hopefully you'll see more positives from just yourself and not the actual outcome of the dating experience.
OS
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