Ring Shopping?!?!?!?

Ring Shopping?!?!?!? cyncyn_22: Most of you know my story, but for those who don't, a quick recap: My ex and I dated for 2 years until he left me on Sept. 27, 2005. He said he had feelings for another woman (a mutual friend) and he just wanted to "figure out his feelings" for a while. He refused to get back together with me and told me that he wanted the OW and not me.

Okay, fast forward to today. I talked to a friend of mine. My friend said that he ran into my ex last week. Here's what my ex told my friend:

1. My ex and the OW have been dating for 2 months (my ex broke up with me 2 months and 10 days ago).
2. My ex and the OW are considering buying a house and moving in together.
3. My ex and the OW are considering going "ring shopping".

[size=15pt"> [glow=yellow,2,300"> WTF???[/glow"> [/size"> >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( ??? ??? ??? ???

After only 2 months together, they're already planning on getting married? (it doesn't surprise me that they're dating, but this is another matter). Me and my ex dated for 2 YEARS and he never wanted to go "ring shopping" with me! (at least, not before finishing college).

[size=20pt"> [glow=red,2,300"> My ex is such an a$$hole!!!!!![/glow"> [/size"> ::) ::) ::) >:( >:( >:( >:(

*takes a deep breath*

cyncyn_22
Re: Ring Shopping?!?!?!? Beren: Give it a while, and soon he'll be "trying to figure out his feelings" again with the new chicky babe. Feelings aren't very bright, and your ex isn't very bright for giving them so much priority. But that's just my opinion.

Beren

Re: Ring Shopping?!?!?!? cyncyn_22: [quote author=Beren link=topic=22507.msg209292#msg209292 date=1133987569">
Give it a while, and soon he'll be "trying to figure out his feelings" again with the new chicky babe. Feelings aren't very bright, and your ex isn't very bright for giving them so much priority. But that's just my opinion.

Beren
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That's just it. The whole "trying to figure out his feelings" thing was just another way of saying "I want to be with the OW, not you." >:( >:(

Think about it, if he really did want to "figure out his feelings" he would have given himself more time to do just that before going out with the OW. Instead, he started going out with her immediately after he broke up with me. Sounds kinda fishy doesn't it?? ::) ::)

Here's what I think: He didn't break up with me so he could "figure out his feelings". He knew what he was feeling all along. He knew what he wanted, and that was the OW, not me. He had it all figured out. >:( >:( >:(

Oh well, he's the OW's problem now. He can't hurt me anymore. He can't manipulate me anymore. He can't cheat or lie to me anymore. He no longer has control over my feelings and emotions. He's her problem now. And as far as I'm concerned, that's great news. Let her find out what an a$$hole he is. >:(

But you're right Beren, he will find himself doing this again and again and then he'll wonder why he still hasn't found the love of his life. ::) ::)

cyncyn_22

Re: Ring Shopping?!?!?!? RSGinATX: [quote author=cyncyn_22 link=topic=22507.msg209301#msg209301 date=1133988687">
[Here's what I think: He didn't break up with me so he could "figure out his feelings". He knew what he was feeling all along. He knew what he wanted, and that was the OW, not me. He had it all figured out. >:( >:( >:(
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I don't think he has anything figured out, really. Dumps one person to rush out and marry another? This guy surely doesn't know diddly about marriage, or even just an LTR for that matter. He's "shopping" alright! And like beren says..he'll be looking to trade in this one in too eventually.

Re: Ring Shopping?!?!?!? cyncyn_22: [quote author=RSGinATX link=topic=22507.msg209305#msg209305 date=1133989362">
[quote author=cyncyn_22 link=topic=22507.msg209301#msg209301 date=1133988687">
[Here's what I think: He didn't break up with me so he could "figure out his feelings". He knew what he was feeling all along. He knew what he wanted, and that was the OW, not me. He had it all figured out. >:( >:( >:(
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I don't think he has anything figured out, really. Dumps one person to rush out and marry another? This guy surely doesn't know diddly about marriage, or even just an LTR for that matter. He's "shopping" alright! And like beren says..he'll be looking to trade in this one in too eventually.
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You're right, he has no idea what he wants, but how could he just all of a sudden leave me (someone who treated him like the greatest thing since sliced bread) after 2 years and already want to marry the OW after only 2 months??? What possesses a person to do stuff like that? It just doesn't make sense to me. >:( >:(

I'll never understand why he did what he did, but I do know that his actions prove that he definately has a lack of character issue going on and that I am the better person. ;)

*bangs head against wall*

cyncyn_22

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