What did I do 2 Deserve This?-- His Reasons (as told by him) SadEyez: him: i wanted to control him, just cause you're married doesnt mean you have to be settled down
me: if i could control u, you'd be a good husband, scratch that, a good person!
him: you didnt do anything- i dont know how u got mixed up with me - im sorry , i dont deserve you, im not a good perdon
me: if you weren't a good person i never would have married u. dont say that
him: i dont know , i dont want anyone 2 care about me - did u ever think of WHAT I was going thru? you just talk about what i did 2 u- u dont care what i might be experiencing
me: im to blame for you getting a gun & selling drugs & your so-called female friends?
him: if u would just work with me, we'd still be together- if u dont want to do my plan then u know what im gonna do
me: ????????
ARE ANY OF THESE "REASON'S" VALID? WHAT AM I MISSING - BESIDES HIM
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I DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW THIS IS MY FAULT :(
Re: What did I do 2 Deserve This?-- His Reasons (as told by him) jadedangel: [color=navy"> Only thing that comes to mind ... guilt. He knows he was wrong, but it is so much easier to think your wrong. If you believe it .. then he can feel better. It isn't your fault ... it's deception.
"Every vice has its excuse ready." [/color">
Re: What did I do 2 Deserve This?-- His Reasons (as told by him) barelybreathing: No. No. NO!
If someone tells you that they are not deserving of you its because they know that they are not willing to change to be deserving of you.
Take it seriously. He means it.
BB
Re: What did I do 2 Deserve This?-- His Reasons (as told by him) dumpling: sadeyez,
barelybreathing is right. he knows that he doesn't deserve you but is just not willing to change so that he deserves you. i know that it is confusing, my husband said the same to me. deserving you would require sacrifice, compromise, comittment, regard for someone other than himself, and that is simply not what he wants. he is manipulating you by saying those things and it is hurting you by giving you false hope that he will change.
hang tough!
