Re: Premium jadedangel: [color=navy"> Beren and Goose ....
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Re: Premium Beren: Searching Wikipedia for "Crush" will bring you to this article on "Limerence":
[quote"> Limerence is a state of mind that, in standard English, is often referred to either as "being in love" (as distinct from "loving" someone) or as infatuation. The term "infatuation" carries connotations of immaturity or fatuousness, while "limerence" is intended to separate these connotations from the emotion. However, this intended separation does not, by itself, mean that the two are fully separable. Also, to the extent that its usage has carried over from pop psychology to non-technical usage, its meaning seems to lose the intended precision so that it becomes a mere substitute for either "(sexual) attraction" or "infatuation".
The word "limerence" was coined by Dorothy Tennov while a professor of psychology at the University of Bridgeport, Connecticut around 1977, and first published in her 1979 book Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love. "Limerent" is the subjective noun (the limerent person) as well as the adjective form (so the "limerent object" is the person the limerent desires). The coinages are arbitrary; there is no specific etymology. The word is not found in current dictionaries, but is nevertheless in use by psychologists and by others discussing romantic relationships.
"Limerence" is distinguished from "love" in that love (in most of its meanings) involves concern for the loved one's welfare and feelings and not necessarily any expectation of gain in return. In contrast, limerence demands reciprocation. Despite limerence's interrelation with sexual attraction, it is differentiated from purely sexual desire in that the sought after reciprocation comes in the form of returned limerent feelings in addition to sexual relations.
Also in distinction from love, limerence tends to be comparatively short-lived. It can last up to one and a half years or so, but typically lasts only a few months. Either reciprocation occurs and limerence is replaced by other feelings (possibly lasting love), evidence that the limerent object does not reciprocate finally overwhelms the limerent's passion, or the limerence expires or is transferred to a new object.
The primary characteristics of limerence can be summarized as intrusive, perhaps obsessive thinking about the limerent object and acute longing for reciprocation. Clinically, this state is marked by decrease of serotonin neurotransmitter, which leads to increase in emotional sensitivity and instability. People can sometimes become very irrational, or almost insane. In particular, the desire for reciprocation can produce irrational beliefs ("she only had me arrested because her love is too strong for her to stand") and behavior ("if I give her gifts I can't afford she will see how much I love her"). Limerents often feel real physiological effects, including a physical pain in the chest ("heartache") when reciprocation seems unlikely, and euphoria when reciprocation seems evident. If the limerent object does not reciprocate and does not handle the situation with care, people in this state can suffer severe depression, sometimes committing suicide - unrequited love is one of the major causes of suicide in the younger population.
An infatuated person has an idealized image of their target. The person "fell in love" with this image, which may have no relation to the real person whatsoever. The object of infatuation is likely to reject the advances of the afflicted person, because they may consciously or unconsciously realize that the afflicted is in love with a fictional image, not them, and that they are not compatible despite the afflicted one's daydreams. Alternately, the afflicted may get to know the person well enough to realize that they are in love with a fiction, and become disillusioned. A happy ending is also possible: if the daydream image actually resembles the real person closely enough, that might be referred to as "love at first sight". "True love" must involve an understanding of a person on a fundamental level, which is unlikely to reside in the fantasy of a crush unless one postulates an empathic connection or accepts Plato's concept of God-given right opinion.[/quote">
Re: Premium jadedangel: [color=navy"> Beren ... I am not reading that ......
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Re: Premium Beren: Fine, but the rest of your posts on this thread have to start with the disclaimer, "I haven't read all the posts on this thread, but I wanted to comment anyway...."
Beren
Re: Premium jadedangel: [color=navy"> *Disclaimer: I have read all the important posts on this thread, however .. I have not read the one that does not pertain to the truth that must prevail*
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