Going Into Hiding... Tarheel: Hey Everybody...
I've been here for 10 months, emotionally separated for 14, physically separated for 11, oficially divorced for almost 5. This place is has been great to me. I've met some amazing people with some incredible stories. And the resolve and willpower of many of you here is unbelievable. Ya'll have helped me out in times of crisis, or just allowed me to vent on occasion, and i hope I have een able to provide some of you with some decent insight, as well.
With some help from a couple of ya'll here, I've come to the conclusion that at this stage of my recovery process, it would probably be best for me to take a little vacation from Ojar. It seems that everything I'm contributing here right now, especially regarding things that actually matter - no offense, YJ - has been a little too negative, particularly for someone as far along in the ordeal as I am. I think that allowing myself time to focus on all the good things in my life, primarily my family, school starting in four weeks, and raising my precious little daughter, will let me get a little more emotional fulfillment out of life, something that seems to be lacking right now for me.
It's nothing against anybody here. It's just that the underlying issue of why i come here on a daily basis - no matter if I come to Ojar just to bulls*** with my friends here - is the primary reason I'm an emotional wreck right now. So I will be cutting my time around here for the next several weeks. I've got my PM page bookmarked, and will check them regularly, so to those who check in with me on occasion, I'll never be more than a PM away.
Except YellowJacket: if you step out of line down in Anything Goes, I'm gonna be right there to check ya. :)
So, I will be seeing you guys and gals around. I wish every single one of you, even the ones I've had some run ins with, including but not limited to Brandy, Z, and Crushedman, the absolute best in each of your recovery processes. Perhaps stepping away will allow me to find my best, as well.
Sincerely,
"Tarheel" Mike
Re: Going Into Hiding... YellowJacket: Tarheel,
With all of the responsibilities you're carrying and will soon be adding, I'm sure everyone understands your need to cut back on OJar. You've been a very valuable member of the community and the time that you do have to drop in will still be much appreciated.
You can setup your account so that PMs are automatically forwarded to your personal e-mail address. That way you get them immediately and don't have to keep checking back into the OJar PM page. That might help a little in keeping you from getting distracted.
Best of luck with school once it starts. It's tough going back after being away. If it ever seems to get to be too much for you, put a note on OJar and we'll give you lots of encouragement. I had a note on my wall to keep me focused when those 16-hour study days started to get old:
One step at a time, eyes on the prize
It helps you keep perspective. A great future is worth a tough present for a few years. If you forget, just go into her bedroom and watch her sleeping and you'll remember why you're working so hard.
Hope you find a woman that deserves you. Don't settle for less. May she bleed Orange and Blue and convert you. :)
Good luck, buddy.
Re: Going Into Hiding... flyaway: *bagpipes play in the backround*
Goodbye, Tarheel. You are going to be awesome at school! Remember to eat breakfast, and get lots of sleep! :)
Wait a minute! What am I saying? He's going to college! Think of all the wonderful people you're going to meet! No time for eating or sleeping! ;) :D
Take care, and be good!
Flyaway
Re: Going Into Hiding... Lumpy: [quote author=YellowJacket link=topic=22522.msg209448#msg209448 date=1134012959">
It helps you keep perspective. A great future is worth a tough present for a few years. If you forget, just go into her bedroom and watch her sleeping and you'll remember why you're working so hard.
Hope you find a woman that deserves you. Don't settle for less. May she bleed Orange and Blue and convert you. :)
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You can't buy a better motivator than that. Watch him fall in love with a Gator. He'd never cop to it YJ.
